You don't have to do anything you don't want to sweet, you need to do this in the way that is best for you because doing something that is going to make things worse isn't helpful for you.
You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are.
but they yelled at me....... and what if there right..........what if this happens to me again because i didnt report him ......... im scared!!!!! i dont want this to happen again!!!!!!!!
we are the fallen
we are the wounded
we are the shattered
we are the unheard
we are the brave
we are the strong we are Survivors. and..... we are the future
we fallen can still rise by the wings of hope that lifts us~
i have been in a similar position for the last few months
people use any tactic to get me to go.. mainly guilt
but then i was on this site of this SA specialist place Ive been referred to.. and there's a list of dos and donts for parents, friends and partners.. and it said 'under no circumstances pressure them into anything because they will have many difficult decisions to make, such as whether or not to go to the police, and it is their choice'
not word for word but that was the gist of it and it made me feel a lot-lot better and less bad and less guilty
youre the one who had to go through it, sure, in an ideal world every rape would be instantly reported but in an ideal world every rape would get a 'guilty' verdict with the victim receiving the right care and protection in the meantime. until then, i dont think anybody has a right to push you into something like that
maybe show them that site xD it's 'the havens'...
stay safe, stay strong.. you know where I am if you need me
we are the fallen
we are the wounded
we are the shattered
we are the unheard
we are the brave
we are the strong we are Survivors. and..... we are the future
we fallen can still rise by the wings of hope that lifts us~
they probably don't know any better. in their eyes they only see one right way, so every other way must be wrong. but they have never been through this to understand that it's not thast black and white.
*hugs* well done in telling. maybe you should tell your mom tohugh,, what if the kids tell their parents and its relayed to your parents from someone else? mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
they dont know my parents at all so they cant tell my parents and im not ready to tell them.....
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Reason: forgot a word
we are the fallen
we are the wounded
we are the shattered
we are the unheard
we are the brave
we are the strong we are Survivors. and..... we are the future
we fallen can still rise by the wings of hope that lifts us~
Thats ok then and if you change your mind and want to tell them one day then when its your decision and then time is right then thats ok too. People here will support you whatever you decide.
Take care of yourself
You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are.
we are the fallen
we are the wounded
we are the shattered
we are the unheard
we are the brave
we are the strong we are Survivors. and..... we are the future
we fallen can still rise by the wings of hope that lifts us~
today im going to talk to my friend but i dont know how......
Last edited by fallen wings44 : 14-06-2009 at 06:15 PM.
we are the fallen
we are the wounded
we are the shattered
we are the unheard
we are the brave
we are the strong we are Survivors. and..... we are the future
we fallen can still rise by the wings of hope that lifts us~
we are the fallen
we are the wounded
we are the shattered
we are the unheard
we are the brave
we are the strong we are Survivors. and..... we are the future
we fallen can still rise by the wings of hope that lifts us~
maybe just lay the groundwork.... tell her that something happened that is very hard for you to talk about. tell her that you're not sure you're going to be able to say it right so that she knows to be patient.. that way, if you dont manage today, she will still understand and be receptive next time you try
well done for doing this :)
my mum found out in a much worse way and i've spent a lot of time since then just wishing that i had told her on my own terms before
im sorry but im not going to talk to my parents about what happened im going to talk to my friend about the letter i gave her im sorry if i forgot to say that in my post..........
we are the fallen
we are the wounded
we are the shattered
we are the unheard
we are the brave
we are the strong we are Survivors. and..... we are the future
we fallen can still rise by the wings of hope that lifts us~
thats ok theres no need to hide its okay *safe hugs*
we are the fallen
we are the wounded
we are the shattered
we are the unheard
we are the brave
we are the strong we are Survivors. and..... we are the future
we fallen can still rise by the wings of hope that lifts us~
we are the fallen
we are the wounded
we are the shattered
we are the unheard
we are the brave
we are the strong we are Survivors. and..... we are the future
we fallen can still rise by the wings of hope that lifts us~
*cuddles*
I am sorry love, do you know why?
You can try again another day, you did well for planning to speak to her I am sorry it didn't come through but maybe next time.
You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are.