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Old 05-06-2010, 12:59 PM   #81
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I understand the worry and guilt about leaving your mom and feeling responsible for her. I went through all of that when I decided to leave, it wasn't an easy decision and I still find myself feeling guilty for leaving her there when I know things aren't good. But you have to take care of yourself before anyone else. It's not selfish, it's not cruel, it's not abandoning your mom, it doesn't mean that you don't care. But your only real responsibility is for yourself. As I said earlier, I don't know anything about your circumstances or background, so please don't take offence if anything I say is way off the mark, but when I struggle with all the guilt of leaving and my parents are trying to manipulate me into going back home, my therapist reminds me that they are adults, they are both responsible for themselves and it is their decisions that keep them where they are. Just as I didn't have to stay, my mom doesn't have to stay. Just as I have had to change my behaviour and ways of dealing with life to be able to move forward, they have the same responsibility to do that for themselves and it is their choice not to.

It's just some stuff to think about when the time comes, I know you've got a hell of a lot more on your mind right now. You've waited so long and fought so, so hard to get to where you are now, I hope that you are given all the help and support you need to really start over and find a way to let go of your demons.

I know you've got a hell of a lot of people on here who care about you and are looking out for you, but if you ever want to talk about anything, my inbox is always open.

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Old 07-06-2010, 04:11 PM   #82
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Hey everyone.

Helen's just told me that she's been told by her CPN that she's going to be going to an inpatient hospital near Reading, I think it's in Wiltshire, which is near me WOOP & it sorts out other issues that were causing anxiety & fear. :) Yayness much.

There may be the assessment on Friday, but nothing concrete, either way, it's sometime soon! ;)

(plus if it is on Friday, she's gonna come straight to mine!!! AHHH!!!)

Ahem. Yes.

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I love you Angel, you're so amazinggg. & I'm super glad this is happening, FINALLY.

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Old 07-06-2010, 04:29 PM   #83
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Ah I'm so happy they have sorted funding out!
I hope Friday goes well.
Write down all the things you want to ask, all your concerns etc so if you find it hard when there you can hand them what you wrote.

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Old 07-06-2010, 04:31 PM   #84
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words cannot express how happy i am for you <3
You so deserve this and im here for you every step of the way :)
xxxxxxx



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Old 07-06-2010, 04:34 PM   #85
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Helen,we are so happy for you!!!
We love you.




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Old 07-06-2010, 04:35 PM   #86
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That's wonderful news!
Hope everything goes okay :)

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Old 07-06-2010, 06:20 PM   #87
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so so SOOO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!
omg that's amazing

seriously amazing!!
Love you
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Old 07-06-2010, 07:00 PM   #88
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You really deserve this, think of how great life will be when you're on the road to recovery. Good luck!



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Old 07-06-2010, 07:04 PM   #89
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i live 10mins from marlborough and it truly is a lovely place... it's not intimidating at all, just a quaint little village-town!
I hope this treatment/assessment works for you and is a step towards recovery - you are very brave =)

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You closed your eyes and had complete and utter faith.
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But the thing is, it's hard to let go of that fairytale entirely because almost everyone has that smallest bit of hope, of faith,
that one day they will open their eyes and it will come true.


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Old 07-06-2010, 08:16 PM   #90
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Thank you all so so much!
I am so happy & excited,,, but terrified at the same time... Its so pathetic.

I am defiantly getting an assessment,, & it might be FRIDAY!

Just one thing,, Anyone know what they ask during an assessment for IP treatment? Also do they do a physical assessment?

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Old 07-06-2010, 08:30 PM   #91
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good luck hun
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Old 07-06-2010, 09:36 PM   #92
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Congrats, Helen good luck. xxx



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Old 07-06-2010, 09:56 PM   #93
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I don't think it's pathetic at all that you're scared. that's really understandable. i'm really glad you're getting this though, you deserve to get help.

 
Old 07-06-2010, 10:00 PM   #94
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Glad something's finally happening. Being scared isn't pathetic.
Keep fighting :) There is a lot to look forward to.



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Old 08-06-2010, 07:16 AM   #95
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This made me happy. You deserve help.



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Old 08-06-2010, 07:27 AM   #96
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Helen, you wanted to know what they usually ask during an assessment--I have a few of those under my belt, and though your experience may vary, here is what I remember:

They want to know where you are with symptoms and such, so some sample questions:

-What ED symptoms do you currently struggle most with?
-How often do you engage in these behaviors?
-Do you tend to cycle between symptoms? If so, what does the cycle look like?
-What are your triggers, if you know them?

And so on...

Physical assessment is kind of like you would have at your yearly doctor's visit. They'll do blood pressure, temp, and so on. They want to make sure you're stable and that any medical complications you have are well-controlled and/or treated.

I don't want to sound like I'm brushing off your concerns, but it really isn't as scary as it seems, and it will help you get the level of care you need.

Good luck and best wishes.



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Old 08-06-2010, 11:32 AM   #97
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Hey baby girl,

I know you're scared&frightened, that's okay though, it's a big, huge change! But, it's a change I KNOW you're gonna get through&you're gonna be okay, you're gonna go IP & you're gonna recover, or at least start to recover, & it's gonna be okay...

Think of the happiness, the joy, the freedom you'll have... it's a daunting image too, I know, but it's an image that you deserve, you deserve to live life, & you deserve to be happy & free.

&you will, one day, you will.

You'll make it through this angel, you will.

I'll be here every step, every breath of the way.

I'll be here to catch you if you even stumble...

I love you with all my heart, with every fibre of my being, with every spec of my soul, with every cell in my body.

You are:
Beautiful, Stunning, Amazing, Wonderful, Caring, Loving, Superb, Fantastic, Beyond Magnificent & so much more many good things.
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I can't wait to be with you...
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Old 08-06-2010, 12:03 PM   #98
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I'm so happy for you Helen, things will get better :) xxxxx

 
Old 08-06-2010, 12:16 PM   #99
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Good luck and hope you get all the treatment and support you need hun. Looks like you really do deserve this chance :) <3 xxxxxx



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Old 08-06-2010, 03:49 PM   #100
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Hey everyone :)

Just spoke to my angel & they've said the assessment is definitely Friday.

Baby girl, you ARE ill enough & you WILL get a bed. They wouldn't do all of this if you weren't. & You've seen the reports, you are severely ill. *snuggles*

I love you.
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& we'll be in each others arms in 3 days anyway! So after it's all done, you can come to mine & ramble to me about it & I'll comfort you & hold you & kiss you & all that good stuff! =)
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