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10-09-2020, 05:06 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2020
Location: New Zealand
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Tips on telling boyfriend that I still self harm at times
My boyfriend and I have been dating just over 5 months and he knows that i used to self harm but not that I still do sometimes. Does anyone have any advice on how I can tell him? I am worried that he will feel hurt and/or will break up with me or that he will ask why I did it.
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11-09-2020, 10:18 AM
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Join Date: Sep 2017
Location: London-ish
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Maybe send him a message if it's too hard to say out loud? I do know that he will ask why you do it though so maybe prepare an answer to that question beforehand. There's no reason he would break up with you if he is a decent person but it is a shock for people to hear and they can blame themselves and that's when talking about it and explaining is important.
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13-09-2020, 01:03 PM
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It's Bouquet! B-U-C-K-E-T!
Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Wales, UK
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Why not Google resources information about SI? Then either print them off and show him or send him the links. That way you can start an conversation about SI without blurting out "hey I SI" which seems to be the problem here.
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14-09-2020, 09:41 PM
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Camden
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: USA
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sometimes it can help to think about how you would like someone to react, as that can help inform you what you would like from the conversation. if you can say up front i am telling you this for xyz reason, or i am telling you this because i could use support to do xyz, or because you just think honesty is important and you want them to be aware, etc... that might also help you narrow down a better way to approach it.
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You can't always keep it separate.
This is happening, this is part of you.
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21-06-2021, 01:53 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Hawaii
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honestly, being honest is always the best way to go you may not like the outcome that comes with being honest but trust me, being honest about your self harm is always the best way to go. Your being honest to your self, your issue, you showing you have nothing to hide and that he can trust you to go to him for help
PLEASE STAY SAFE ��
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29-06-2021, 09:38 PM
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Pathologically flamboyant
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Closing due to age. Butterscotch, feel free to PM me at any time if you would like this reopening.
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No other sadness in the world would do
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