my cousins have never been through abuse by their parents at all there home life was perfect compared to mine they didnt get called names!!! yelled at!!! made to feel worthless worser then dirt!!!!! they didnt get hit!!!!! my home life was hell but they talk **** like they know what happened and they understand when they just dont!!!!!!!!
just another floating iceberg in this ocean we call life...….
Am I a failure from birth
Is misery what I deserve
Am I just so void of love
That I'm never good, never good enough
~citizen soldier-never good enough
I'm sorry you had such a difficult home life and that you feel your cousins don't understand. It is worth bearing in mind though that just like your cousins don't know what you went through, you don't know what went on behind closed doors in your cousins house. So maybe don't assume their home life was perfect!
We may not see eye to eye, but we can respect each other's opinions and find the truth in them.
Perhaps in those honest conversations, instead of demonising each other,
we might see each other as imperfect humans, doing our best. ~ Jodi Picoult
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I know that their lifes weren’t perfect one was anorexic when she was a kid and the other was gang raped when she was a kid (they told me what had happened to them) but their weren’t abused by a parent and when they found out about me and my dad they didn’t believe me and they still sort of dont
just another floating iceberg in this ocean we call life...….
Am I a failure from birth
Is misery what I deserve
Am I just so void of love
That I'm never good, never good enough
~citizen soldier-never good enough
I'm so sorry that they didn't believe you, that's really unfair. Do you have a lot of contact with them?
I still stand by my statement though that you don't know for sure what their home life was like.
We may not see eye to eye, but we can respect each other's opinions and find the truth in them.
Perhaps in those honest conversations, instead of demonising each other,
we might see each other as imperfect humans, doing our best. ~ Jodi Picoult
We may not see eye to eye, but we can respect each other's opinions and find the truth in them.
Perhaps in those honest conversations, instead of demonising each other,
we might see each other as imperfect humans, doing our best. ~ Jodi Picoult
...no.... but they have said that no matter what they do to me they are blood relatled...... so even if i never want anything to do with them they will always talk to me and bother me.....
just another floating iceberg in this ocean we call life...….
Am I a failure from birth
Is misery what I deserve
Am I just so void of love
That I'm never good, never good enough
~citizen soldier-never good enough
This has been bugging me for a while. It really sounds like you're dismissing the things they've been through/are going though. Anorexia and gang rape are very serious things. And I am very sorry you've been through a lot and are struggling but maybe you shouldn't dismiss other's problems so easily. It is not a competition.
If for whatever reason you don't want to have contact with them, then you don't have to. You could block them on whatever means they use to contact you. If you wanted to explain beforehand that you were cutting contact because you can't get past them not believing you about the abuse from your father then that would be kinder than just blocking them, but you don't even have to do that if you don't want to!
We may not see eye to eye, but we can respect each other's opinions and find the truth in them.
Perhaps in those honest conversations, instead of demonising each other,
we might see each other as imperfect humans, doing our best. ~ Jodi Picoult
Sometimes you have to be brave and ignore them. Block them and if they turn up at your group home tell the staff that in no uncertain terms you don't want to see them. It will take several weeks for them to get the hint and they may use emotional blackmail to get a response but by responding you may be adding fuel to the fire.
Wannabe CPN : -)
"He who is tired of Weird Al is tired of life." - Homer Simpson "I hear those voices that will not be drowned" Sanity is a nasty disease. The world would be a happier place without it. - Rilic
RIP Kat 4th July 1987- 11th June 2013
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Hopefully you can ignore them as this seems to me the best way forward. I get that it's easier said than done though.
Wannabe CPN : -)
"He who is tired of Weird Al is tired of life." - Homer Simpson "I hear those voices that will not be drowned" Sanity is a nasty disease. The world would be a happier place without it. - Rilic
RIP Kat 4th July 1987- 11th June 2013
Please do not pm me without permission as I find getting PMs very stressful.
We may not see eye to eye, but we can respect each other's opinions and find the truth in them.
Perhaps in those honest conversations, instead of demonising each other,
we might see each other as imperfect humans, doing our best. ~ Jodi Picoult
Well done! Have they attempted to contact you since then?
We may not see eye to eye, but we can respect each other's opinions and find the truth in them.
Perhaps in those honest conversations, instead of demonising each other,
we might see each other as imperfect humans, doing our best. ~ Jodi Picoult
Would you consider blocking them so that they can’t contact you?
We may not see eye to eye, but we can respect each other's opinions and find the truth in them.
Perhaps in those honest conversations, instead of demonising each other,
we might see each other as imperfect humans, doing our best. ~ Jodi Picoult
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