I also think that difficult as relationships with others with issues can make things more difficult I think that equally that greater level of empathy and understanding can in some cases be a positive thing :)
'Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.'
['There is only one thing we say to death. Not today'.']
'We are each our own devil, and we make this world our hell. Oscar Wilde
Its hard to dance with the devil on your back. Sydney Carter
I think relationships that start on RYL are just like any other relationship: some work and some don't.
I have been in three relationships that started on this site. All of them started off as friendship before. None of the guys I've been in relationships with from on here are on the site anymore.
The first ended badly, and lasted a few months. He was in England and I am in Texas. We had been close friends for over three years and met in person several times before/after starting the relationship.
The second ended so-so. Again, we were friends for many years. He lived an hour away from me. Lasted about three months. This was the relationship I was only in because we lived so close together - I thought it couldn't hurt to see how if it worked out for us. We didn't click at all, and it wasn't worth the hour distance for either of us.
The third relationship is the one I am currently in. He lived in Colorado, but moved down to Texas to be with me. He has lived here for a year so far, and we now live together. We've been together a year and eight months and I'm sure it will go on much, much longer. He is my best friend and love of my life (yay mushy :p). Also, it should probably be noted that I'm almost fully recovered now, and he was when we got together - so we're both in a good place to be in a stable relationship now. :)
I don't regret any of my relationships from on here. They all helped me in some way and made me who I am. Be smart, realistic, and safe about how much to trust people - and go for it! :)
Sorry for posting in this zombie thread, but I'd like to say that at the time we met on here both me and Rich (Dicky T) were in quite bad places, we became really good friends and by the time we got together in a relationship we were both in a much better place as individuals...we've been together 4 and a half years and are both entirely free of any sort of SH and are very very happy together. I can't say I know if it would be the same if both or one of us was in a bad place when the relationship started but I know he's one of the main reasons that I'm happy and healthy and loving life...
But also, if you have to question it, are you starting the relationship with a little bit of doubt already there?
I have a partner I met on another forum and we have been together nearly 6 years. I think it's mostly about honesty when you meet someone over the net. For my partner and I we were pretty good friends about a year before we met and ended up together and then we have just gone from there. I think it's ok to have a little bit of doubt, but better if you keep the communication up with your partner
So she lights up a candle for hope to be found
Captive and blind by the darkness around
Each wave a promise, a new hope reborn
Sunrise consoles at the break of dawn
You said could you I said if you want... after you insisted I find the page in the frist place.
ETA: He won't buy me any llamas!
It was soooo obvious!!
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself. My spoken words.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.