Pineapple016, i think maybe if you explained this to the girl, maybe she likes you too? If you start a relationship and you realise actually you don't see yourself being with her then that's ok and vice versa. I think the only way is to kinda.. try it and see what happens! However, i think people should explain they don't want a serious relationship first otherwise it's not very fair on the other person!
That's kinda what i did and i know i'm bi-sexual. If anyone wants a chat or anything i'm a pm away!
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i dont know what to do, ive been with my boyfriend just under a year, and i love him so much ive never loved some one so much, when im with him i only want to be with him, but im not straight ive known for awhile now, he thinks im bisexual, but im not i dont like men only women but i love him if thats possible, we r great together but when im not with him i only think about women, there isnt anyone else but i just dont think i can keep pretending i no im not being fair on him but im scared i dont know what to do
i've known for a long time now that i'm not straight, and i've always just told people i'm bi.
buuuut then there was this whole drunken escapade, and now i'm thinking, maybe, i'm leaning more towards being completely on the other side of the fence.
how do you really, really know?
i mean, i've had sex with guys, and it's always been fun or whatever, but i feel like it's not really what i'm looking for. then again, i'm only sixteen, so maybe it just isn't the right guy.
or maybe i'm just gay.
i don't know.
I would say it's almost impossible to really, really know. I'm not such a big fan of the sexuality labels. The way I see it, you fancy who you fancy. What does it matter what sex they are? Not the most helpful answer, sorry. I guess I'd just say, maybe you don't need to worry so much over it. One little word, 'Bi' or 'Gay', can't ever describe all you are/feel. :)
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makeartnotwar I have a friend who is in exactly the same position as you, she started out saying she was bi then was like ok maybe i think I'm actually gay because I don't like men as much as women. Recently she's said that she doesn't want to label herself but she would now again say bi because when she did say she was gay she felt like she wasn't being completely true to herself. She now just says shes bi but for her that means she just likes anyone she likes and she doesn't have to struggle with only looking at men or women. This was over several years and watching her struggle my advice is don't put a label on yourself because there is never going to be a right label for all your feelings. If anyone asks go with your gut instinct whatever that may be but don't spend hours fretting over it. Just like who you like whoever they may be.
I used to say that I was bi and didn't want to admit to anyone that there wasn't any guy that I liked. I finally came out to my mom and told her that I was gay. I even opened up to my friends and admitted to them that I was a lesbian and not bi
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mmmm, that's all given me something to think about for sure.
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this time she said, it's over
she said next time, forever
i can't explain, i'll take the blame.
i brought this all on myself.
visions that i've seen
always haunt me in my dreams
they say that you two just friends,
oh, but that's not the way it seems
now it's not like i'm trying to be up all night,
just trying to come to terms with all the love i've lost.
I just wanted to say thank you for creating this thread and sharing your stories. It's nice to know that there are other confused people out there!
I think its sad to see so many confused people because I think the media and political interest groups promote "confusion" as normal - like everybody is confused and needs to figure out what they are when its not the case.
It's still a fact that a lot of people with sexual identity issues and Gender Identity Disorder etc. have very high rates of childhood sexual abuse and other issues that trace back to their families/parents.
Of course this doesn't mean anyone is a bad person but I see there is a lot of pressure applied to young people to think only certain ways about sexual identity issues and any mention of past abuses or parent issues is met with a derision that is meant to keep people from questioning the party line. Indeed, even psychologists are hard pressed to be able to study things as they wish.
A past American Psychological Association president Nicholas Cummings said that when the APA conducts research they only do so "when they know what the outcome is going to be...only research with predictably favorable outcomes is permissible."
I don't mean to be rude to anyone and do not care what people are into but a lot of the forums today have this "rah rah" confusion is normal thing going on and its like the blind leading the blind really.
Here are a couple of studies I randomly pulled off Google (There are dozens more)
"Self-Reported Childhood and Adolescent Sexual Abuse among Adult Homosexual and Bisexual Men"
This study of 1,001 adult homosexual and bisexual men found that 37% reported they had been encouraged or forced to have sexual contact with an older or more powerful partner before age 19. Median age at first contact was 10. Ninety-three percent of participants reporting early sexual contact were classified as sexually abused.
"Reports of parental maltreatment during childhood in a United States population-based survey of homosexual, bisexual, and heterosexual adults"
Results: Homosexual/bisexual men reported higher rates than heterosexual men of childhood emotional and any physical maltreatment (including major physical maltreatment) by their mother/maternal guardian and major physical maltreatment by their father/paternal guardian. In contrast, homosexual/bisexual women, as compared to heterosexual women, reported higher rates of major physical maltreatment by both their mother/maternal guardian and their father/ paternal guardian. Differences among individuals with differing sexual orientations were most pronounced for the more extreme forms of physical maltreatment.
Conclusions: Adult minority sexual orientation is a risk indicator for positive histories of experiencing parental maltreatment during childhood. While the reasons for this are beyond the scope of the current study, previous research suggests that childhood individual differences, including possibly gender atypicality, may be a causal factor.
I've always kinda felt I might be bi..simply because sometimes (i'm a girl) find myself attracted to my best friend ( a girl,) I've even fantasized about kissin her..and other stuff..but I could never see myself actually datin a girl..for some reasons..I am strongly though attracted to guys but I've been in several abusive relationships honestly (took me years to admit it..) with guys..and my last boyfriend was a bit on the "girly" side I guess.. but I do want to "kiss" my girl friends sometimes but I don't know..anyone feels like this? let me know please.. I am also bipolar borderline..does this have anythin to do with it perhaps
Same thing anyone have any transgender issues feel free to pm me, I'm pretty open to my transition and I have a sister who is male to female so I can help a bit on that side as well as having many friends mtf.
That doesn't sound silly at all, hunny. I'd say, to me, it sounds as if you are, but really all that matters is what you think. It's up to you to decide how to label yourself, whether it's Bi, Bi-curious, or straight after all. If you even want to label yourself at all, that is.
Don't put yourself down, hun. It's never stupid to ask for advice or help. *hugs* x
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I decided to just quit putting a label on my sexuality.
When I was younger, I assumed I was straight. I never admitted to myself that I had an attraction to girls until only a couple of years ago. I don't know what brought about the confusion, but I realized then that I'd actually been attracted to several girls in my life up until then. After a while, I came to the conclusion that I was bisexual.
I'd never been with any girls, and I've only been with 2 guys (plus one of which was a long distance thing, so let's not count that). Several months ago, I had a huge crush on a girl. I might have told her, but I was already with someone at the time, so I thought it best to leave it be.
Right now, I can't say that I'm attracted to anyone other than one guy. I do find people attractive, but that's quite different than actually being attracted to them. I did have a thing for someone I was talking to online, even "dated" him for a week, but now that's faded back to friendship.
I can't remember where I was going with this, but... I find it hard to imagine myself with anyone other than the guy I love. I do suppose that I could have a relationship with someone else if I had to (guy or girl), but it wouldn't seem the same. Mostly because of him, I think, sexual orientation doesn't matter to me so much as it did in the past.
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To look to a fellow human to save you is foolishness. To give all your love to one is insanity. Yet, it seems that I've fallen to this foolishness and insanity.
I've been living a heterosexual life since I started having sex at 17, (I'm 25 now). I've been with PLENTY of men, but I still find myself feeling sexually unfulfilled with men and recently started searching for a woman. I had my first experience about two weeks ago and I don't really know how I feel about it. I liked being with her, but I don't know whether or not I would call myself Bisexual. I don't want to get caught up in labels or trying to "figure" myself out. I know that I like the feel and touch of a woman and thats pretty much it.
i dated guys but it always felt wierd, then i came out as bi in school two years ago, had a gf, we split up and i got with a guy but broke up with him cause it felt wrong. i told my close mates i thought i was a lesbian, but i've recently found a guy who i really love, even though we're not together. i guess the labels just dont fit, theres always an exception to every rule.
im a lesbian, but im in love with a guy... that about covers it at the moment
things may change though
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To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse.
To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better.
To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better.
do you guys think 15 is to young to know what you are
cause im 15
i had a relationship with a boy and i fookin hated it
but had a reltionship with a girl n loved it
now split up tho
and i tell people im bi but am i to young to know what i am
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