Live Help

Forum Jump
Post New Thread  Reply
Old 06-08-2019, 09:00 PM   #1
Susu.'s Avatar
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: my very own imaginarium
I am currently:
should we show our scars?

So its summer again and it is hhhhot! i always cover up my scars but in this heat im considering wearing short sleeves, i havent yet because im worried what people will think if they saw my scars... what do you guys think? have you uncovered yours? did you get a reaction? did anyone comment? should we cover up?

This is Marvin, He is my Be Safe Bee.

Susu. is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-08-2019, 10:22 PM   #2
sandalwood's Avatar
Join Date: Aug 2019
Location: London
I am currently:

I know how you feel. I didn't feel comfortable exposing my arms for years which would the the site of my self-harming. The scars would be brown or raised white lumps or...fresh scabby like things and I know that would have attracted a lot of attention- which I don't like.

I personally don't think we should cover up for fear of others but that fear might be instinctive, ie, I don't want to be bullied or targeted for my scars. I don't want others thinking about how I'm feeling.

My permanent scars are still running down my arm but I've not covered up for a good 10 years now. I don't really think about what others are thinking so much. That would be different if I was still self-harming in the same place which isn't happening.

sandalwood is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-08-2019, 10:45 PM   #3
It's Bouquet! B-U-C-K-E-T!
not_so_insig's Avatar
Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Wales, UK
I am currently:

I dont cover up - I haven't since 2005. Only twice have I ever had comments and they were over 10 years ago. I go swimming most weeks and nobody has ever commented about my quite obvious leg scars down my left leg.

Wannabe CPN : -)
"He who is tired of Weird Al is tired of life." - Homer Simpson
"I hear those voices that will not be drowned"
Sanity is a nasty disease. The world would be a happier place without it. - Rilic
RIP Kat 4th July 1987- 11th June 2013

not_so_insig is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 07-08-2019, 10:25 AM   #4
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: U.K.
I am currently:

Most of the time I cover up but if it's hot I will now wear short sleeves, and I've never had bad reactions. But I usually take a layer with me in case I start to worry.

with Christ I hang upon the cross

tamobhuuta is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 07-08-2019, 07:14 PM   #5
Pomegranate's Avatar
Join Date: Jun 2007
I am currently:

I wear long sleeves when out in public. There is a very small handful of people I will wear short sleeves around. I have had a few comments, not overtly negative, but questioning- including by the dominoes delivery man!

*Proud Plumeria Sister*

Pomegranate is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 07-08-2019, 07:34 PM   #6
nonperson's Avatar
Join Date: Sep 2017
Location: London-ish
I am currently:

I cover up, apart from the few on my arms that I'm able to lie my way around when people ask. And they do...

I did go swimming once when on holiday and because I wanted to swim so badly I didn't worry myself with what the other strangers around me were thinking. So I guess it depends. We shoudn't have or need to cover up and really it's no one elses' business so if you feel able to wear short sleeves then go for it.

Self harm is much more understood and well-known nowadays so I'd like to think that even if people were shocked, they wouldn't question you about it.

nonperson is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 07-08-2019, 09:18 PM   #7
Aurors for the win.
Auror.'s Avatar
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Godric's Hollow

I always cover up in front of treatment providers and in more professional work type of settings. Otherwise I don't bother or care. If I am actively self harming, the only other times I would cover up would be around family or in a situation where I would be getting dirty.

I don't generally get comments. I used to on occasion and usually just gave a sarcastic or flippant response or just say it was an accident or none of your business. I don't think I've been asked in years though.

I think it's a personal thing. For me if it's a situation like for treatment providers, I mostly do cover up because I don't want to trigger anyone else at that facility. So that to me is a rule that makes sense and not all places have those rules.

If it's a more professional setting, I do because they typically have rules about covering tattoos, so I include my scars the same. That said, I don't think that it would be a requirement and I could probably show them. But I also don't want them to distract anyone from anything else by drawing attention to myself.

If you want to cover them and it makes you feel more comfortable, go for it. If you don't, do that too. People who are going to judge you for something like scars will just find some other aspect of your appearance to judge on anyways.

You can't always keep it separate.
This is happening, this is part of you.

Auror. is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 08-08-2019, 10:30 PM   #8
Join Date: Feb 2019
I am currently:

i cut on the upper part of my arms so it doesnt show when i wear short sleeves

Darkwings44 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-08-2019, 08:55 AM   #9
I always have a choice
Pi.R^2's Avatar
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: sitting this one out in the safety cupboard
I am currently:

I definitely don’t think we should have to cover up. You wouldn’t be expected to cover up other types of scars and having been mentally unwell isn’t something you should be made to feel ashamed of.

I generally don’t cover up when out in public and I can only remember one time in like ten years getting a comment from an adult in England (I say that because when holidaying in Cyprus we found a very clear distinction- the British tourists didn’t say anything whereas more often the locals did tend to ask, although not in an unkind way).

I often prefer to cover up in front of children because they are curious little things but that is purely my choice and not something that I would tell anyone else that they must do. Where that isn’t practical (I’m not going to wear long sleeves in excessive heat), I do then get questions. With secondary age kids (11+) I go for ‘ooh, that’s a personal question!’ which usually ends the conversation immediately and with very teeny kids a dramatic story about a pet lion is quite fun and if that isn’t going well, a detour to ‘have you been to a zoo? What animals did you see?’ does the trick.

We’ll find a way to fight it, we always have.
It's not how tragically we suffer but how miraculously we live.

Pi.R^2 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 22-08-2019, 09:53 PM   #10
Koala hugs
Join Date: Aug 2019
I am currently:

I think do what makes you feel more comfortable for me I can't cope with the heat so I wear tshirts n shorts been doin it for years sometimes people stare or ask me what happened but it's not very often now and if I feel OK with it then I actually answer honestly although there are times I just say sword fight with a pirate or something. The only rule I hav is to cover anything that hasn't yet scared but only for fear of triggering others

Koala hugs is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 22-08-2019, 09:54 PM   #11
Koala hugs
Join Date: Aug 2019
I am currently:

Scarred not scared

Koala hugs is online now   Reply With Quote

Currently Active Members Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

vB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Censor is ON
Forum Jump

All times are GMT +1. The time now is 09:41 PM.

Back to top