i have had lots of things said to me which were inappropriate. probably the worst one was when i had OD'd and i was in A&E and i was in a right state and they couldnt get any blood out and this doctor says to me " it looks like you are good at it so why dont i just give you a scalpel and you can have a go" in response to the state of my arms. i was shocked and upset.
That's absolutely awful! As medical professionals these people should NOT be allowed to say things like that. Staff in the medical field in general need some kind of reality check as to what they think they can get away with. They are supposed to provide a service, not worsen problems.
Do not be dismayed by the brokenness of the world. All things can be mended. Not with time, as they say, but with intention. So go. Love intentionally, extravagantly, unconditionally. The broken world awaits in darkness for the light that is you.
^^ i agree. i think if i was in the state of mind where i'd taken an OD that meant i needed to go to A&E and a doctor said that to me, i would be so tempted to just walk off, internal damage be damned. =/
"So what's happened to make you feel this way today?"
Umm..I don't know...nothing..
"You've had a good life, you've got a good family - some people are in such horrible situations, they have nothing - do you ever think about that?"
Ugh, thanks. Trying to guilt-trip me out of self-harming isn't gunna make me feel any better whatsoever, trust me.
"But...I thought you were a Christian?"
....
My mum is so..ugh when it comes to buying clothes. She knows about it, but she'll still always find me all the tops with short sleeves and be like... "Oh this would look lovely...get this one." So many times. Also, "it's so hot - take your cardigan off" is another one that she likes to use.
I dont know your relationship with your mum, but maybe she is showing you support and saying you dont need to hide it. some people are embarrassed if people see our scars, maybe she doesnt want you to feel the need to cover up.
http://www.recoveryourlife.com/forum/showthread.php?p=2851063#post2851063 <<< loving this thread!!
THIS. Oh my gosh I hate this with a passion. And what makes it worse is it's usually from OTHER Christian people! Being a Christian means I have Jesus, it doesn't mean life is magically perfect and beautiful. <.<
Sorry. Had to rant about that. I'm good now.
Duct tape is like The Force. It has a light side, a dark side, and it holds the universe together.
If someone said ^^ that to me, I think I'd actually cry, seeing as it's my issues with not feeling good enough for God that often drives me to do it in the first place (pretty twisted, I know).
Do not be dismayed by the brokenness of the world. All things can be mended. Not with time, as they say, but with intention. So go. Love intentionally, extravagantly, unconditionally. The broken world awaits in darkness for the light that is you.
^^hugs Pixiedust, that's a really horrible feeling to have. We may not have the same beliefs about G-d but I'm SURE you are good enough for Him, you just have to realise it.
Always seem to get things just that little bit wrong.
"don't wish, don't start, wishing only wounds the heart"
My brother doesn't know I self harm. Neither does my best friend. Both, on seperate occasions, jokingly said they were going to cut themselves and pretended to. That was upsetting.
When life hands you lemons, make orange-juice...
...Then sit backand watch everyone wonder how you did it.
There was one I can't find now, someone said they weren't a real self harmer cos of where they cut, just want to say wtf self harm is self harm, you're not any "less" a self harmer cos you cut in a certain place. That's ridiculous.
Also the one about if it was rape you'd have screamed out and it takes two to have sex, that's just sick, it was rape ffs. Never anyone's fault.
Oh yeah, someone said to me to get help or they wouldn't talk to me again. So I went and got help, and that was 8 years ago and she's still not talking to me.
Only three people in my life know about my SI, and only one is totally supportive.
When I told one for the first time, he just said "You just do it for attention; You're always so happy!"
When I am honest with the other girl and tell her my fears about my scars with new people, she just tells me "You can't see them! They're not there! Let it go...."
And from my Mother when she first found out about the SH, the common "Do you want to die".
^THIS.
we are the fallen
we are the wounded
we are the shattered
we are the unheard
we are the brave
we are the strong we are Survivors. and..... we are the future
we fallen can still rise by the wings of hope that lifts us~
The phrase I hate is "you are an intelligent girl, why are you doing this to yourself?"
Quote:
Originally Posted by Susu.
'Why do you do this, you're too pretty to hurt yourself'
I'm not pretty, but even if i was it wouldn't be a reason not to.
'At least this isn't as bad as last time'
I knew i should have made it worse...
'If you'd gone a millimeter deeper you would have hit the radial artery'
uhh thanks... now that's going to be triggering my in my head all night. Target practice.
My sister during an argument, waited for there to be a load of people outside, then walked out, shouting over her shoulder 'you're pathetic, at least I don't cut myself!'
You're mad, bonkers, off your head.
But let me tell you something; All the best people are-Alice in wonderland.
All hail the almighty google!
Minnie_Mouse and Saxophone are my fellow wise searchers <3
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