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Old 18-06-2013, 01:34 AM   #1
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How do u overcome stagefright?

I have been attending Poetry nights at the Torriano pub in kentish town now for around two months and I've been asked to perform next month...

One big problem: I cannot perform in front of an audience. I have massive stage fright and it sucks.

So.... how can i deal with this?

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Old 18-06-2013, 01:48 AM   #2
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Public speaking is a skill that takes practice like anything else. I recall giving my first speech presentation at uni and I had to physically reach down and stop my knee from shaking. A year latter I was giving public tours to groups of 25 people at a local museum. Speaking got easy.

The better prepared you are the better you will feel. You also want to realize you really don't matter that much. If you give a good presentation - thats nice. If you don't - well then nobody really cares. Everyone has been nervous about something and understands. If there are jerks in a crowd well you'll see they are jerks. That doesn't happen too often though.

Unfortunately we often grow up making ourselves "small" and others "big". Speaking before them can seem like going before a judge and getting momentous decision when its all actually pretty minor. If you speak with enough confidence the audience will be nervous wondering if they are understanding you like they should or if they are dumb. If you forget all your words and wet your pants and collapse crying on the ground - the people seeing it won't care 10 minutes latter. They are mostly just insecure meatbags as well.

Just do your reading/reciting and stay in the moment. Dont start analyzing and wondering what audience thinks - thats for latter. Just focus on your bit and keep things nice and easy. If you forget something or get tongue tied dont panic. If you look like you having a laugh over any mistake the audience will have fun with you and all will be well.

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Old 18-06-2013, 02:25 AM   #3
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Old 18-06-2013, 02:28 AM   #4
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I don't get stage fright when it comes to singing dancing or acting, even though I am incredibly shy in real life, with performing its like I'm a different person. To get up and just speak though, I would be terrible! I guess maybe just look at one person when you're speaking, preferably someone you know, and pretend you're only speaking to them. Oh, good luck!

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Old 18-06-2013, 09:54 AM   #5
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I was going to say maybe close your eyes but then if you dont know the poetry off by heart you cant see it. Think if i had to do it id face the opposite way or ask the audience if they could possibly listen from outside or another room.

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Old 18-06-2013, 05:29 PM   #6
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unless you want to get intoxicated before you perform (which I wouldn't recommend) then the only thing I can say is practice and experience makes it easier.
I had to do a number of presentations in front of the class or others for uni. The first one I did I was sweating and shaking, messing my words up and I did terribly. You just end up getting used to it. The last presentation I did was infront of about 40 ymca residents i'd never met before and I actually enjoyed it.
First step is the hardest but just remind yourself it will never be that tough again.
I'm an extremely shy person when it comes to speaking in public, if I can get some sort of confidence doing it, i'm sure 99% of people can.
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Old 18-06-2013, 08:58 PM   #7
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As others have Said, It is a matter of practice.when im at camp i Talk a Lot in front of 100+ People. I was nervous when i had to at First.
A Lot of People Start to speak Rally fast and quiet wen they Are nervus, so i always Try to speak loud and clear.
A good friend told me a few years ago to pretend that i speak with dumb People, but i guess that would be a Bit too slow.

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Old 18-06-2013, 09:04 PM   #8
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Never make true eye contact lol ok you can if you like but personally I look at the back of the room just above their heads. Plus what jack says is true 10 minutes later no on will remember if you forgot a word or whatever x

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Old 19-06-2013, 12:19 AM   #9
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Maybe try practising it on people you know, it will get you used to speaking in front of people and also if they're true friends they'll tell you if you're doing something wrong so that you can fix it before you go in front of the proper audience so you can go up there knowing you aren't making a fool out of yourself.

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imagine everyone in the room is naked ;) x

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Old 19-06-2013, 01:05 AM   #11
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Originally Posted by FranticMind View Post
imagine everyone in the room is naked ;) x
you see, I have a really dirty mind so this.... this wouldn't be helpful.

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Old 19-06-2013, 01:23 AM   #12
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It is a skill but once you master it your confidence will grow exponentionally.

I guess one thing to think about is what is it that scares you?

If you can work it out and analyse it then you can kind of try and confront it

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Old 19-06-2013, 01:27 AM   #13
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practice practice practice and more practice. even when you feel uncomfortable. feeling uncomfortable is to be expected, go towards it, not away. seek out the discomfort until you can't find it anymore

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