depressed about work situation

not_so_insig · 29-01-2016, 03:01 AM

I was clearing out a drawer and found my old cv. 26th March 2003 was the last time that I did any form of paid work. That's nearly 13 years ago.

But part of me thinks that I shouldn't be too hard on myself. I have been claiming sickness benefits since August 2004 and I have been under a cmht since then. I have been declared unfit to work and I shouldn't feel ashamed. I have a genuine disorder but I feel as though I am faking it. My cpn says that I am not properly medicated. Heck I may never be able to do an proper job before I reach retirement age (other than voluntary work ).

But I feel such a fraud. I feel asthough I should be in a paid job by now. But part of me knows that realistically I wouldn't be able to cope with the pressures of a job, even part time.

Amaranth · 29-01-2016, 07:58 AM

Don't beat yourself up - you can't help being ill xx

be here now · 29-01-2016, 12:33 PM

You are where you are right now. Be present and don't contemplate whether it's right or wrong for you to be where you are now. If there's a calling inside you to take action in some form then do it. If not then be at peace with where you are in life. Nothing stays the same forever.

EMH · 29-01-2016, 06:59 PM

please dont be hard on yourself. everyone is so different and can handle and cope differently to work even when you discount mental health problems. work is not the only part of life.

PoppyLove · 29-01-2016, 07:11 PM

Just think how crazy our society is, though - what other creature actually works for a living?

I think this leads to a LOT of unrealistic expectations. "you must do X to be considered successful" -- in my opinion, that's just not true.

Personally, I think volunteer work is great! If you did a bit of that and were happy and able to survive, who cares what anyone else says? You're probably contributing to the world far more than they are anyway.

yoyogirl · 02-02-2016, 12:18 AM

Can you look into supported employment for people with mental health problems they can help people get into work. Speak to the job centres Shaw trust and see if they links with Disabled employment advisors and then refer yourself.