i was sure you had already posted a thread like this, but then i couldnt find it.
I think I did...oh crap.
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I am glad that dressing up helps most of your self-confidence.
I personally feel horrid when I am forced to dress up. I wear baggy clothes because I hate feeling tightness on my skin. If I have to wear anything tight (which I haven't done since I was 19 and my mum was being horrible and making me wear them just to make me upset), I will fidget continuously and feel suffocated.
I didn't see the purpose of dressing up before but after reading your posts, it makes a bit more sense now.
My "smart" dress is a men's shirt, a pair of black trousers I got from the army shop and trainers or boots....:/ that's as far as I will go.
I also wear mostly (if not all the time) clothes that men would generally wear, I dislike women's clothes, even though I am a woman.
Thank you for all your posts though, very helpful.
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
I only really want to wear stuff based on how i feel in it, ie i only ever wear one pair of shoes day to day because they are all that fits. But i try to make a bit more effort to look girly sometimes because i think other people care about clothes and things. I want to fit in a bit so i make myself take an interest to be a bit more approachable and stuff to talk about. Because mostly i dress like a boy more than a girl, and apparently i scowl and look unfriendky too
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I only really want to wear stuff based on how i feel in it, ie i only ever wear one pair of shoes day to day because they are all that fits. But i try to make a bit more effort to look girly sometimes because i think other people care about clothes and things. I want to fit in a bit so i make myself take an interest to be a bit more approachable and stuff to talk about. Because mostly i dress like a boy more than a girl, and apparently i scowl and look unfriendky too
Why does it matter about what other people think though? To be honest I am not convinced that friends who like you for being like them (i.e. wearing similar clothes as them) are really that good friends.
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Dress up doesn't really mean tight fitting.
Ask anyone about my "body issues. I have lots. I cannot stand ANYTHING tight on my stomach at all. I'll always tug and pull at it. So for me, dressing up is a pair of nice, black boot cut jeans (not tight, not too loose) and a button up shirt. My favourite button up shirt is fitted, but not tight at all. I feel nice and happy when I'm wearing it because I sort of "feel" like I look better than usual.
Ok thank you for clarifying. What are boot cut jeans like? I can't remember how they're shaped. I have some button up shirts but they're three sizes too big for me, on purpose.
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
I agree, nice doesn't have to mean tight. I also hate tight clothing, especially anything on my stomach. I refuse to wear anything that's tight in that area, which makes shopping kind of a pain because a lot of shirts are made out of clingy material!
I like to dress up sometimes, when I'm going out somewhere and it calls for it. I don't really think that how I'm dressed makes me feel more confident, but it makes me look confident (which is how I want people to view me). *shrugs*
I don't much like dressing up, I feel awkward and very self conscious, not comfortable at all. I have a couple of loose, nice looking blouses that I wear sometimes.
But mostly I just wear men's horror movie t shirts, men's hoodies, women's jeans and boots because I'm most comfortable like that. I do like to wear make up and jewellery though, although not every day.
I never understand the whole dressing up thing either. When I was in school I woke up so late that I only had a few minutes to throw on some clothes [most of the time I would just wear my pajamas to school lol] and run out to the bus.
My sister takes an hour to get ready in the morning and it is crazy but she is such a girly girl.
I personally only wear what is comfy like baggy clothes [usually either sweat pants or some baggy jeans and mostly just shirts that have random stuff on them and a hoodie] and I will put my hair up in a bun and only wear some eyeliner and chap stick but that is all. The only time I ever dress up is when I have to go to something that calls for it and even than I do it reluctantly.
Honestly most of it is because I find it to tiring to do all that dressing up and I also am very self conscious about my body and I am convinced no matter what clothes I wear I would look horrid. Plus I hate going shopping trying on clothes just manages to eff with my self esteem so I don't go out buying any cute clothes.
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My mum used to force me to dress up sometimes and tbh I felt like I was going to vomit the minute the dress or the lipstick went on. Eventually I told her to stop and she has to live with that now. Although we don't talk or see each other now, last time we saw each other, I think she was learning how to "put up" with my army trousers and steel-capped boots.
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
^And, also, most of the time making an effort with your appearance makes you stand out less, because you look just like everyone else.
Like at a party, the person who's too self conscious to dance stands out more than the random people dancing away.
Very good point. Explains why I get called names by teenagers on the streets.
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I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
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When I was younger and less depressed I used to enjoy dressing up. For me I think I just wanted to attract the opposite sex so I wanted to look pretty. Even after getting a boyfriend though I often would dress up, but usually for him because I wanted him to think I was beautiful. Other times I wanted to look professional for work. So I guess for me it had multiple functions.
I used to enjoy it and it made me feel girly, grown up, and beautiful. Now I basically never dress up, I've stopped caring about what others think to a pretty huge extent. I can barely take care of myself so its kind of out of the question to add more stress to that by dressing up, and I get no enjoyment from it anyway. If anything I feel frustrated because I feel I look ugly no matter how hard I try to hide it.
I dont like dressing up. I dont even wear makeup every single day.
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Very good point. Explains why I get called names by teenagers on the streets.
That's not nice at all :(
I don't really 'dress up' fancy that much, because I don't go out to fancy things that often. But day to day I think a lot about my appearance, because I want people to like me. Which is pretty shallow, but hey-ho. Also I realise I make a special effort on the day I see 'certain' people, because I want them to see me looking good and holding it together so they know I'm fine without them.
But in less narcissistic news, I do quite like bright colours and wacky tights, and I feel comfortable and confident and 'myself' in them :)
Dressing up for me is some skinny-ish trousers (generally chinos), a button down shirt, smart shoes, and a pull-over style jumper.
At uni I wear Jeans, trainers (or steels), a t-shirt or longsleeved shirt (weather depending), and a hoodie. Sometimes I wear my coat as well although, I also wear my coat when I'm dressed up.
Sometimes I just wear smart-ish jeans and trainers and a polo shirt when I go out though. Usually a jumper too.
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When I go to uni or am going out somewhere with my friend, I usually wear either tracksuit trousers and an oversized t-shirt (I like oversized clothes so I can't feel them too much against my skin), and trainers. Other times I'll wear army trousers, boots and a big tshirt, perhaps a hoodie as well if it is cold.
When I go to my dad's office I wear a pair of black trousers (I fidget when I wear them because they're not baggy enough), trainers and a men's shirt.
My friend is the same with clothes, he doesn't like "feeling" them. We both have Asperger's and we share the extreme uncomfortability of even slightly tight clothes.
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
