The big shut off

[yoyogirl]

Three things I do when a person has pissed me off big time habituallly

1. The phone gets switched off for the day or few days depending on how I feel, I don’t care about other people texting me or worrying about me. I have no emotional attachment anyway, I don’t feel empathy or sympathy or any kind of worry for them. I don’t apologise to anyone if miss calls or even if for no reason I deliberately want to be left alone.

2. I remain in my room as way of saying enough is enough and completely refuse to turn to turn up to any groups.

3. I usually play fallout 4, so i can forget about the problem

The reason i do this is because I want my own space and to feel back in control again. People have tried to apologise for their mistake but I don’t believe in forgiveness and I’m old school in sense that eye for an eye.

It’s also what majority of depressed and bipolar people do anyway .... no big deal comes with symptoms

[nonperson]

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Originally Posted by yoyogirl

It’s also what majority of depressed and bipolar people do anyway

Doesn't make it a healthy or acceptable response.

[Auror.]

That all sounds pretty unhealthy, childish, and passive aggressive to me. But it is obviously your choice to do.

What exactly are you looking for with regards to posting that?

[yoyogirl]

Either that or I get more and pissed off and infuriated with whoever or they end getting threatening towards me or coming over as aggressive in texts.
Whereas if I turn my mobile off for a few days, it gives me time to reassess the situation and calm down and I ain’t tempted to really let off what I feel about them. Plus I found that on my days that my mobile is switched off I get more done like I ain’t scrolling through social media making myself more depressed or looking at an empty inbox or refreshing my emails.

I’m sure we can all relate to when we’ve been peed off by someone and we’ve said something we don’t mean or wouldn’t dream of saying in anger and frustration or we’ve sat and scrolled through every status, forum message inventing every single worst case scenario in our heads wasting time that could of been working on a project, doing an assignment or simply enjoying a day off.

[Iamcatbug]

I’ve done none of those things as a depressed person. Well I do switch off my phone but only for an hour or so.

And actually I’ve found confronting people when things aren’t right between us to be beneficial and makes the relationship better.

[Pomegranate]

As someone with bipolar, who as part of that has suffered depression, I can honestly say I’ve never found I do those things, nor do I think they would be a helpful way of managing things. At some point you need to deal with ones feelings of fristrating in a healthy way and talk them through, otherwise the situation will keep repeating itself.

[Unbreakable.]

I find it really weird how obsessed you are with telling us that you turn off your phone. I think it is in almost every single post of yours.

What type of reaction do you expect/want?
Why is it so important to you to mention it?
It comes across like you are using it to communicate a certain emotional state you are in or to express that you are unwell. Maybe there are more efficient ways to do that.

[Auror.]

Being mentally ill and/or neurodivergent doesn't give you a free pass to do crappy/unhealthy things or be vindictive to others. You seem to use your diagnoses as excuses a lot without ever really changing anything or taking responsibility for your own actions or choices.

You also posted this in general chat so I don't understand what exactly you were looking for and what you are getting from this as you also don't seem to really ever take on board advice or really even read replies. I don't get it.