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Old 27-03-2015, 02:03 PM   #1
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You don't wanna have to be like, "I wish I'd waited," as I am. *frowns* then again, does rape count as losing your virginity? *sighs* either way, I don't feel like I can call myself a virgin after what happened to me. :(





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Old 30-03-2015, 08:10 PM   #2
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Hi there,

Sorry it's taken a while to get a reply, I'm a little low on words, but i just wanted to say I'm sorry to hear what happened to you *gentle hugs*. Personally I believe consent is needed to take ones virginity, losing your virginity should always be a choice. So I guess, this depends on how you feel around the matter.

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Old 30-03-2015, 09:44 PM   #3
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Hello,

I agree with Charmed on this. Just wanted to say that I'm really sorry this happened to you. Hang in there! *squishy hugs*



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Old 31-03-2015, 01:03 AM   #4
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I agree very much with Charmed.

It is up to you how you view it but I know we personally don't view it as taking virginity unless consent was given.

I'm so sorry you're struggling. We're sending many safe thoughts in your direction, take care of yourself as best as you can, OK?

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Old 31-03-2015, 01:22 AM   #5
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In my opinion virginity can not be given without full consent.

I also do not believe in virginity though.

But no. I agree with Charmed.



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Old 01-04-2015, 02:57 PM   #6
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Old 01-04-2015, 05:48 PM   #7
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It is difficult to deal with sometimes, and I have no clue what to say about what happened to me :(





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Old 02-04-2015, 05:44 PM   #8
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It turns out my DBT counselor filed a report about the abuse. He didn't tell me he was doing that, so...





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Old 03-04-2015, 04:44 PM   #9
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Wow. That's really not cool of him.

If you feel comfortable with doing so I'd suggest that you complain. Nobody has the right to do anything like that without your permission.

Also, I wouldn't class rape as a way to lose your virginity.

I send you gentle optional hugs and all of my best wishes xx

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Old 07-04-2015, 01:07 PM   #10
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Thanks, everyone. I am now scared that I will have to face the girl who hurt me.





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Old 07-04-2015, 07:33 PM   #11
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Okay, so, I am at this supervised study thing, right, and three of the girls here act like my roommate who hurt me. Feeling uncomfortable and triggered here.





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Old 30-04-2015, 02:04 AM   #12
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I'm with everyone else on this, I agree that rape cannot take an individual's virginity, I myself asked this very question after being repeatedly abused over video chat (while not physically rape as such, in my opinion its the forced nature of such sexual abuse that makes it rape not the actual physical contact, maybe 'cyber-rape' would be a more appropriate term for what happened to me), and was reassured by another victim of rape that this individual (a girl) did not and couldn't have taken my virginity due to me not wanting the intrusive pressure and violating acts at all

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