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Old 20-02-2013, 12:38 PM   #61
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Would totally buy all that if people didnt get divorced at the drop of a hat nowadays.

I think if a person is untrustworthy, and is going to play with your feelings/cheat on you, they'll prove that eventually, married or not.
But if youre religious which is what I was talking about chances are you wouldnt get divorced.




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Old 20-02-2013, 12:42 PM   #62
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But if youre religious which is what I was talking about chances are you wouldnt get divorced.
"I hate divorce says the Lord" Malachi 2 I believe! God, I'm such a geek.

I think divorce is also becoming more common among religious adherents too though. And the Catholics always have the annulment get-out-of-jail card!



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Old 20-02-2013, 12:56 PM   #63
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My best friend is getting married in the summer and she hasn't had sex, and won't until she is married. I have spoken to her a lot about it, and she said that her marriage is between her, her husband and God, so coming together as one person is sort of infront of God, and she would feel it would be a sin to sleep with her fiance before the wedding.

I find it a little strange, mainly cos the idea of God watching me get it on, feels a bit bizzare, i would have thought he'd much prefer to be elsewhere.

However, I went to a CofE school, and know of quite a few people who won't have sex until they are married. I think its personal choice. The people I know have made that choice for religious reasons, but I agree some people wait for other reasons.



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Old 20-02-2013, 05:34 PM   #64
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Lol, that sounds awesome! Are all four counted as legit legal marriages?
I really don't know. I wasn't around at the time. I know they got courthouse married and the others were all religious. They had to make everyone happy, see?

But they were really really married at the end of it. Except for the people who still weren't happy.

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Old 21-02-2013, 08:43 AM   #65
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it's just so personal and intimate and so to me it seems unwise to allow that access to someone who doesn't mean a lot to you.
Just because you're not married doesn't mean a person isn't important to you though!
Marriage is a symbol, and a legality. Getting married doesn't immediately make you love someone any more than the day before you got married.



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Old 21-02-2013, 10:23 AM   #66
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I was brought up with the idea to wait to have sex until the first night of the honeymoon after you were married. Of course, I ignored my parents' advice :P






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Old 21-02-2013, 10:27 AM   #67
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My parents never spoke about sex.

You can see how that went....:p



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Old 21-02-2013, 10:43 AM   #68
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It's not weird to wait. I have loads of Christian friends who have waited. I didn't though and I don't think it would have worked for me to wait as I needed to know it'd work sexually before marrying him because of past issues. If you are a devote christian you should definitely wait though!

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Old 21-02-2013, 11:21 AM   #69
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From a personal view I do find it a bit odd, but then I am a strong non believer in religion and marriage. In my mind you do not need religion to have good morals and having morals does not mean that you should refrain from sex but I am also a believer that sex is something that shouldn't jump into. I am friends who have a variety of types of sexual relationships but they are all relationships and safe and happy so that's all good.

I think what's am trying to say is people should never jump into bed for the sake of it but neithere do they need to be married to have sex as in my mind it is an outdated concept anyway

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Old 21-02-2013, 08:46 PM   #70
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I was raised christian so I was, once upon a time, super paranoid about these things. But [SAFE] sex is so amazing, and I feel, important in a relationship. So say you wait. You love the person, they love you, you get married. And then when you finally get intimate you find that you have no real sexual chemistry... Then what? Of course there's things you can do to try and create some, but there's so much to experience... Why limit yourself when it comes to pleasure?



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Old 21-02-2013, 08:49 PM   #71
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To each their own though, of course!



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Old 21-02-2013, 09:02 PM   #72
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My parents never mentioned sex either.

I personally dont think it is weird.



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Old 21-02-2013, 09:09 PM   #73
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I know a lot of guys who have waited until well into their 20s to have sex, I think women are more likely to admit it.
Same, Liv. Most of my friends that waited were guys.

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Old 21-02-2013, 10:33 PM   #74
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I was sure I posted earlier but I can't see it which either means I didn't post or I am being blind.

Anyway, personally I am usually very open minded but I do find this a bit odd. I think marriage is a bit of an outdated concept tbh and just because I am not married does not mean that my 14 year relationship is any less "good" than anyone else's. I do not feel the need for marriage and therefore the concept of no sex before marriage seems very alien to me, not because I think everyone should shag around but because I don't think anyone needs to have a wedding to confirm their relationship.

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Old 22-02-2013, 10:28 PM   #75
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I was brought up in a household where sex before marriage wasn't a big deal if it was with someone you really cared about. However me and my guy have decided to wait until we are married to have sex which isn't going to be for a few years still with planning and all... anyways, I don't think you are weird at all and I don't think it's weird to wait.



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Old 23-02-2013, 02:33 AM   #76
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My ship on this subject sailed a few years ago now!
But I don't think its wierd whatsoever. One of my housemates is waiting till marriage, but she does find it tough sometimes, thats more because she lives in a houseful of girls in relationships and shes single, rather than the sex aspect.
However I find sex a very important part of my relationship, and feel it would be completely different between me and my boyfriend if we didn't sleep together.



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Old 23-02-2013, 01:35 PM   #77
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Nope. It's just not so common these days. But that doesn't make it awkward.

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Old 23-02-2013, 01:36 PM   #78
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on a side note.. i really admire anyone that can go out and get drunk with their partner and not get them home and engage in messy drunken sex.

self restraint win.





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Old 23-02-2013, 07:02 PM   #79
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I want to ask a sex question but I need to put it in one of thoes boxes coz it's rude. Lol
How does one make a little box thing?



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Old 23-02-2013, 07:08 PM   #80
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I'm Christian, so not weird. And I wouldn't...before marriage. But I know my sister has (who is probably stalking this and cringing) and my parents did because mum was engaged before and dad was married before...

Frankly, I don't know many young people who are very religious; there are no young guys that come to my church, and there are only a handful of people my age.



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