I have had 'we can't go on holiday when your like this' and ' But why, you have a good life why do you feel the need to hurt yourself?' both from my mum.
I have had ' but why do you need to see a counsellor lauren?' From my gran i had just come out of hospital after been admitted for an OD. I don't know gran maybe taking an od is not healthy!
I have had a grumpy old witch of a nurse sighing when she realised she had to fill out a bit more paper work as i sh-ed.
Some people in my class have said some really harsh things such as ' you going to your slit your wrist meeting? You will have to hide all of them ugly scars' I have actually had one girl who thought it would be a good idea to discuss what i used to sh with while waiting for our science lecturer with a group of about 20 students. This girl has also said ' wasn't it funny when C saw laurens wrist, i bet she uses a ....' That was when i was going through a bad patch
all these comments are the reason only one person knows about my harming, i had a friend who did and her whole family knew and most of her friends, and some of the things that were said to her im not even going to rewrite, it was awful the way she was treated.
she had all the usual too 'your a young bright girl with your whole life ahead of you why waste it' and the whole 'your pretty why do you need to ruin that' and all those sort of things. and her family kept saying how selfish she was and how she didnt have problems, was overreacting etc, and kept telling her to stop beause they loved her and they kept threatening to put her into care if she didnt stop. was awful for her
My favorites would have to be when an argument arises and family (you know, after telling me how awful it was to hurt myself and that I should stop) throws out, "Oh, just sit in a corner and cut yourself again, emo loser..."
Fortunately, I haven't done it in a long time. But when they throw it out, it seems like a wonderful invitation to do so if I'm particularly stressed or upset about something that used to trigger my SH.
When my Mum first found out that I self harmed, the next morning she came to me and said 'Look what you made me do'-- and she had scratched her wrist. Thanks mum. 11 years on and she's ever so slightly better about it...
A&E nurse last week-- 'Oh that's quite deep isn't it'-- made me want to do yet more.
"Oh your scars are nothing babe - you should see this other girl"
Yeah, that one really does suck. Love youuu.
My ex came out with this little gem once:
"I'd rather you were cutting again rather than not eating. I mean, there's only so much damage you can do with a blade"
Cos that didn't want to make me hurt myself even more than I ever have before.
Oh and obviously the classic "I thought you'd got over all that now" that he used to say.
"I probably have more than you."
"I've been doing it a longer."
"I've done it deeper than you."
Same person in our "deep and meaningful" discucssion whilst getting to know each other better.
She was wrong on all three counts, but I hate it when people try to make it a competition because they want to be the most screwed up. Like sure, think it, but don't try rubbing it in my face by commenting on things you know nothing about.
"Doesn't matter, she cuts herself all the time."
someone once shouted across the classroom in front of my favourite teacher (who I may have had a little crush on)
Anyone that starts saying "Why do you do it? Is it to feel real, because something upsetting you, because you're angry....." continue list from text book.
When my mother first found out.
"You selffish little b!t*H! If you hate me that much why don't you just kill yourself!" Can't remember if that was before or after the slap.
"Alright, gang. I'll ignore that some of you are late... if you ignore that I'm the latest."
"Have you done something stupid recently?"
Or referring to SH in that manner.
"Think of people in Third World countries..."
No. Don't even go there.
Ugh, I hate how people always bring up the whole "Third world countries" thing, I've even had some professionals do it.
An old psych I had once told me " Just get an afterschool job and you'll cheer right up and once you stop cutting your skin looks the type where all the scars should completely fade away in a few months. They aren't that bad anyways really."
I'd been cutting for a few years at that point and I still had fairly visible scars from when I first started...I really don't know what was wrong with this guy...
"Some people get by, with a little understanding. Some people get by, with a whole lot more."