If you are not good with reading people, that is okay! You can always explain that and ask them to tell you when you have done something inappropriate. I usually ask people if they are mad at me or upset with me and to explain why, since I am not good with knowing the kinds of things you are describing about boundaries. I sometimes also mention up front that I need specific boundaries and rules, because that helps me to understand better what is appropriate and what is not. If it is something you struggle to understand, it is absolutely okay to ask people to clarify what is okay and what is not. Just keep in mind what is okay with one person might not be okay with another person, so that's why asking in each specific situation is important. For example, what is okay in a work situation is often different than what is okay with friends, or with a doctor. So that is why it is really important to find out the rules for each type of situation. I bet if you were up front about not understanding what the boundaries and rules are, people would be willing to explain and be more up front about letting you know if things went too far. Especially once they realised you had good intentions and just legitimately did not know it was wrong.
edit to add: If things around your supervisor have changed, maybe you could ask for a meeting with them. You could explain that you are not always good with boundaries, and to ask them for rules about how to interact and what is appropriate. That way they would understand that if you did something wrong, it was not intentional, and you are wanting to make sure things are okay.
Last edited by Auror. : 26-09-2019 at 05:35 PM.