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Old 14-06-2009, 07:14 PM   #1
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Hey guys :)

I hope you don't mind me sharing this - feel free to move/delete this, mods, if it's not wanted - but I wanted to share something that I've found really helpful.

I think a lot of people who've had experiences with abuse and bullying have felt out of control at one time or another because of what's happened, and that can happen to anyone, not just SA survivors.

A while ago we had [this - may be triggering, uses body part terms and *words*] thread posted, about a poem. The last verse really stood out to me, and I was thinking about them a lot today. I tried out making a mental "list" of things that were "mine". Making them as relevant to me as possible really helped me, it made me feel a lot more empowered and positive.

The following content has been hidden - Reason : Adult and reference to SA

For instance, I have a lot of trouble feeling okay and in control surrounding s*xual feelings because of certain things that happened to me. So part of my list is "My feelings are mine, they are not an excuse to do things without permission. They are not his. They are mine."


But it doesn't have to be s*xual. If you've been physically hurt, you could say "My body is mine, my bones are mine" or if you've suffered emotional abuse: "My thoughts and personality is mine. It's not for people to play with. It's me, and they are mine".

It might sound stupid... but it really helped me. Not a fix all, but very empowering nonetheless and wanted to share to see if it helped anyone else.

Stay strong and keep fighting.

Chelsea
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Old 14-06-2009, 07:15 PM   #2
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Well done Chels! I am really proud of you =)
You are wonderful.
Take care of yourself!



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Old 14-06-2009, 07:41 PM   #3
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That sounds like something very useful and positive - we may try that at some point. Thank you for posting it =)



For those doubts that swirl all around us
For those lives that tear at the seams
We know… we’re not what we’ve seen

For this dance we’ll move with each other
There ain’t no other step than one foot
Right in front of the other

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Old 14-06-2009, 08:39 PM   #4
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that is awsome!!!!!!



we are the fallen
we are the wounded
we are the shattered
we are the unheard
we are the brave
we are the strong
we are Survivors.
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we are the future
we fallen can still rise by the wings of hope that lifts us~

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