Originally Posted by one_step_closer
Wow, that is a truly horrible start. I hope that is the worst over with. How did you get on today?
It was weird. The majority of the session was everyone talking about their feelings over this person passing away. I didn't speak because I didn;t feel I could contribute. Which I know won't go down well with the people running the group as we are supposed to contribute at some point. Even though I did speak to one of them before the session about how I didn't think I should be in todays meeting due to the death.
Originally Posted by Zurg
Holy cow!!!! What an awful start. If you feel comfortable to do so, could you approach the people who run the group and tell them how you feel??? I think maybe they could support you in trying to be okay with being new in a group. I also think maybe they will adress the death in the next meeting so maybe it wouldmake sense to attend???? I am sure you're not the only one who found it upsetting and maybe it’d help to talk about it???
From what I learnt today, the person who passed was 10 months into her year long participation in the group. A lot of them were close to her and it was very obvious she was well respected. Made me feel uncomfortable to be involved in a discussion of how she helped them all.
I'm not upset that she died, I'm just feeling awkward as it was the first time I met her and that happened.
I'm more upset and worried that I am potentially going to face a year of hearing how other members of this group have hurt themselves, and that is something that I know will not help me in the long term.
Originally Posted by Auror.
I can understand NOT being upset, as this person was essentially a stranger to you. It's okay to not have feelings about it/her given that. It makes sense. That's definitely an awkward beginning. Hopefully things go a bit more smoothly from here on out?
Thanks Camden. I think it will still be awkward for a few weeks as she will be the main topic of conversation, so there isn't much I can do about it.