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Old 02-04-2018, 10:32 PM   #1541
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From someone who had self-harmed herself years ago.

"You're like a serial killer leaving evidence around."

First of all, wtf. Secondly, I do all I can to HIDE my used band-aid wrappers and gauze packets. You honestly think I'd leave my first aid stuff lying around?

"You just want attention."

If I wanted attention, why would I bruise or cut in places that are easily hidden?

If I wanted attention, why would I have nightmares about my dad and stepmom finding out?

Last time I tell anyone about my cutting/bruising.

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Old 05-07-2018, 10:56 PM   #1542
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I am watching a recording of an 1990s programme called Dangerfield. Someone who has been attacked ended up in a&e and was called a self mutilater by a doctor. I found that offensive.



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Old 17-07-2018, 06:26 AM   #1543
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"Did you get in a fight with a mountain lion?" legit had someone say that to me





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Old 28-07-2018, 08:33 PM   #1544
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fellow ip in the middle of a pub meal really loudly
OMG that scar is awful, how did you do that? did you do that to yourself???
Needless to say i got some awful stares :(




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Old 07-08-2018, 07:15 PM   #1545
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“Who’s making you do this?”
“Just stop”
“You’re hurting me”




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Old 08-08-2018, 02:18 AM   #1546
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I had been clean for awhile and didn’t have any visible scars, so after my mom read my diary and found out I was self harming, she suggested I was just being a drama queen and wasn’t really doing it lmao



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Old 08-08-2018, 02:20 AM   #1547
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And my older friend suggested I was copying her or just lying... a thirteen year old hurting isn’t possible apparently XD



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Old 28-08-2018, 08:30 PM   #1548
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I was afraid you would harm our children





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Old 29-08-2018, 10:27 PM   #1549
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Have you thought that perhaps if you got a job a few friends, you would stop and you wouldn’t feel like this anymore because you would be cured?

It’s an illness just like diabetes - I have had a job, I have had friends, I’ve still had depression anxiety I still self harmed even more. please treating as such. It’s like putting a tiny plaster on paralysed leg and expecting that person to walk again.

Have you tried cbt or mindfulness?
Yeah I have, I have been there done that and worn that shirt to prove it and I ain’t gonna apply those techniques when I’m in bad place cos I’m not in frame of mind right now.havw you heard of fight and flight response?

Have you tried distraction techniques?

Yes but you need to be in the right place right time when you feel ready for it and if you are panicking or you having anxiety attack or your about to harm yourself, you are hardly gonna pick up that book and read cover to cover, especially number your shaking, your body is producing the aderenalin, your mind is racing from one thing to the other. It’s not rational.
Be realistic people

Why don’t you just pull yourself together and stop feeling sorry for yourself ?

I know you mean well, but you wouldn’t say to someone dying of some terminal disease or someone who has just been ********* or someone who has just their mother, father, best mate. Have some compassion?

Why don’t you just go out walk for ten minutes clear your head?

Ya I do that already .... that’s no news i haven’t heard of, thought about, done
It’s second nature to me and plus I’m indoor person and struggle to get out my house even if I want to or have too.

Why don’t you try hitting a box instead or using an elastic band, red marker?

I know you mean well, but I have tried these options a thousand times, I went through the minimisation techniques off the sites and tried every single one a thousand times over and over.

You must do it for fun, attention seek? For people to feel sympathy

No, no and certainly no, no human would do it themselves for a bit of fun or because they had a bad day at work/ at college, and was feeling a bit down. I don’t wake and thunk to myself I know what I’m gonna do I’m gonna do this to myself because my life is ****. And no I do not do it for attention, it’s dome in secret, I’m ashamed of how I’m feeling. I hate people seeing me struggle to cope with life.

Why don’t you ring crisis lime or Samaraitims or your mental health team,? Unless I’m dead 😵 no crisis team or Cmht or Samaritans is gonna save me, that’s because of budget cuts and hate being told that I should go and make myself a cup of tea and have a bath. They’ll end up learning the hard way.

Why don’t you call someone like a friend or family member when you are feeling like this? Because firstly they don’t what I do it’s secret for s reason, I would be too ashamed and it would cause me more anxiety and I would feel judged. Nah thanks.

Why don’t you just get over the self harm? It’d addiction just like alcohol, cigarettes

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Old 21-02-2019, 10:42 PM   #1550
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'' Show me''

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Old 21-02-2019, 10:59 PM   #1551
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'You promised that you'd stop'
' Are you okay?'
'Are you dumb?'
'Ugh, it's making my arm feel weird, can you put on a jacket!'
'You think that's bad? You should see hers/his'
(my PE teacher) ' You can't get changed with the rest of the girls because your 'scratches' make them uncomfortable'
' Promise me that you'll never do it again'

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Old 17-08-2019, 10:19 PM   #1552
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Don't cut too deep /don't cut that deep again as it upsets me

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Old 14-09-2019, 10:49 PM   #1553
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I recently got from my boss “you’re not still hurting yourself are you?!” He was really abrupt and unkind in the way he said it. Like I was just doing it because I had nothing else to do!

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Old 22-12-2019, 06:38 AM   #1554
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It always gave me chills when someone would ask me if they could see my cuts or my scars.

Also, my mom always told me that no one will ever want to marry me now because "guys don't like scars".

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Old 29-12-2019, 04:10 AM   #1555
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Guys or girls will love u for who u r if they r worth anything they will

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Old 29-12-2019, 09:17 AM   #1556
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^ Why is that an inappropriate thing to say?

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Old 29-12-2019, 11:48 AM   #1557
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It isn't I was replying to the previous person

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Old 29-12-2019, 11:51 AM   #1558
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Old 03-01-2020, 06:26 PM   #1559
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"when I see you do this, it hurts me, promise me you'll stop" - mom
*after me getting in trouble and being down* "now you'll go to your room and just cut, aren't you?!" -mom
*after a relapse* "you promised me you wouldn't!" -mom

i know she wants the best for me but I HATE it when she says those things, if it was "just stop" and poof you've stopped then why haven't i done so a while ago?!




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Old 20-08-2020, 01:41 PM   #1560
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I was watching Casualty with my parents on Saturday and someone SIed on it. They subsequently collapsed due to blood loss. My parents were like "that gonna happen to you if you SI again". First of all I have never been to hospital because of my SI and secondly Casualty is a drama. They're bound to show the worst possible outcome of SI. I am sure that there's many members here who haven't magically collapsed because they SIed. It was awkward viewing when my parents said that.



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