Personally I'm disappointed with where this thread has gone. I was just sharing where I was at at the moment and it's not necessarily because i am over reliant on my therapist but perhaps because I have just recently opened up about a few things and now I feel very vulnerable. It's taken a while for me to trust anyone, and while I understand and appreciate the question regarding over reliance on our therapists in my opinion this was not the thread to ask it.
you're right Bluerev, I don't think that was the place for the question to be asked and it has since been directed to the thread in news and debate because it is a very subjective topic.
I still stand on my ground for why I made this thread, and am happy for it to carry on. I too agree that there isn't anything wrong with having a therapist and seeking therapy for the most part people are able to maintain a healthy level of boundary with their practitioner and it is a very positive coping technique to manage with life stressors.
saying that - how are you going?
how is everyone going, I am hoping that we can pull this thread back to its purpose.
life isn't about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself.
Thank heavens for this thread, I'm starting to struggle without support.
My counsellor is back next week and my DBT therapist on the 9th which feels like ages away. xx
If I'm honest I think it mainly routine, also the christmas period was really hard so I'm desperate to talk it trough with someone that isn't emotionally involved and won't get upset with me xx
if its safe for you, you are more than welcome to do that here. but i understand if you prefer not too. I found particularly during christmas eve/ christmas day it was helpful to just kinda verbally unload here regardless of if anyone responded as I was essentially checking in with myself.
You mentioned routine - with it being holiday season I imagine that some of your routine has been shifted? Are you able to implement a routine for yourself if this is the case? Can you plan ahead and make committments with yourself and/or others to do small tasks each day?
Holiday times are never as neat and tidy as they are represented in the fictional world sadly. I understand how difficult they can be.
Hope that you're travelling ok, feel free to pm me anytime if you ever need an ear.
take good care of yourself.
life isn't about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself.
I'm not in therapy as such, but have been seeing a doctor to work through issues I have in relationships as a whole now, caused by the effect of mistreatment in relationships and incidents in the past. Since February.
We've recently decided to lengthen the time between each appt. with a view to ending them completely, as I've recovered from the specific issue I first presented with before being referred. (Though we'll be staying in touch socially.) And she said, regarding spacing the appointments out further, that she wants to give me a chance to 'grow.'
Does anyone know what that means? Like, I know what it means to grow and develop as a person and stuff. But I'm 26. Might she have been suggesting that in a way, I've been looked after by having these sessions every 3 weeks, and now it's time to breakaway and just be myself without the support or something?
She isn't a therapist by job description, but an associate specialist - though she uses a lot of what I feel is therapeutic language, if that makes sense.
I guess I should have asked her at the time.
But it felt like quite a cute thing to say so I think I just focused on how it felt rather than not having a real clue what it meant, lol.
I hope it's alright to put this in here. I didn't feel I needed my own thread, and in a way because of this happening to have been decided just before Xmas I kind of am on a break now consequently.
Any opinions would be great :)
And I can totally understand how difficult breaks can be in general, when I used to feel more reliant on professionals such as CPNs, therapists, psychologists etc. I'd go through emotional torment if they had to cancel or extend the gap by even a week. Taking it personally and feeling rage and upset etc. Haven't got any words of wisdom but can definitely empathise.
Stop thinking about what I want, what he wants, what your parents want. What do you want?
it sounds to me like she is just mirroring your desire to lengthen time in between appointments, and your acknowledgement of what your original issue being somewhat resolved. That in itself sounds like your request for space and the chance to be an autonomous young woman and she is just responding by agreeing with the time gap as means of allowing you to grow.
That was a seriously rambled sentence it certainly made more sense in my head! But I hope the just of gets through.
By adding space between appointments lots can happen that you will have to face some will be easier to do than others, and some will be moments of challenge that will push you - with the space you are handling these issues on your own, and when you do have an appointment I imagine it will be more of a this is what is happening, and this was hard, but this wasn't as hard as I thought etc. and it will become more of a celebration for what you are achieving, and perhaps a brainstorming for something that you may be pondering.
I am not sure but that is my sense of it. Take care of yourself
life isn't about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself.
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