Unsure of What to do
It's been a long time, maybe even a year, since I've been on this website, but here I am again. A lot has happened, and I'm really just not sure of what to do anymore. My parents sent my sister away to a therapeutic wilderness camp, then a boarding school. I realized I was bisexual, my Dad found out after what I assume was going through my computer, and forced my hand in telling him. My sister betrayed my trust and told not only my mother but almost all of her friends, despite me asking her not to. (This was while she was visiting her for a bit) My parents have implemented a new set of rules, for which they gave me a literal three page, front and back rule book, and, based on the book, are treating me as if I were on probation. I feel as though I'm growing more and more distant from my family every day. It seems like all but ten of the people in my city are assholes, and the rest of the good people I know have moved away. I keep trying to make new friends, only to find out they're shitty people. According to the rule book my parents gave me, they could literally choose whether or not they are going to allow me to have a job. They want to be able to go through all of my social media and browsing history. While neither of these is an issue, as I use TOR to bounce everything I do so that it is untraceable, it displays the lack of trust they have in me. They are overcome with this paranoid fear that I will become the alcoholic thief that my sister was, despite the fact that they lack any evidence to back up such claims. Not only this, but they also want to give me random alcohol and drug tests. I've attempted to negotiate these things, but they refuse to budge. The nice things I receive from living here, at least to me, is not worth the lack of privacy and control I have over my own life. I'm willing to give up anything and everything from my phone to my computer, if it means I can get away from this place. It's getting to the point where I just wanna save up enough money to get a cheap car, and get the fuck out of here. Before I can do that though, I need to get emancipated. However, I've already spoken to a lawyer, and discussed my situation, and they say I have a good case. Now I just need to figure out how to get the money I need for this, and what I'm going to do once I've gone through with it. I cannot stand living with my constantly degrading family for two more years, especially when they are so delusional that they are unable to admit that the way they are treating me is wrong. They seem to believe that this complete invasion of privacy, lack of trust, and outright disrespect for me in general, is "normal parenting". They seem to think that bringing up something wrong I've done, or something I've not done that I should've done, in response to every time I try to have a conversation with them, and hardly ever actually congratulating me for what I've done right, is "normal parenting". The only issue is I know just how difficult it will be to escape from their grasps, and I'm unsure of what they are legally able to do to try and prevent me from leaving. I have no idea the extent to which they can legally go to prevent me from leaving, or if they would even stay within those legal limits. It pains me that it has come to this point, but continuing to live with them has completely destroyed my mental state. Does anyone have any advice on my situation, or anything I have stated above?
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