well done to everyone who has stopped. I stoppped 4 months ago and it has been so hard. Everytime i want to cut my psychologist told me to cry, so thats what i do i just cry my eyes out, i just let it all out, whether it be at home, at work, on the bus, at college, in a supermarket/shop, i just sit there on the floor and cry my eyes out (obvioulsy when no-one is looking). and i feel so much better after i have let it out.
I remember once sprinting from my house, just running as fast as I could... I didn't even know where I was going, until I was physically exhausted and had to focus on my breathing rather than my emotions.
ive not stopped, but am trying
i find that doing jigsaws helps (now u all thing im wierd )
but it really can take ur mind off it
also music can help
so music + jigsaw =
hey, sorry if my ideas have already been suggested, but when I get urges to harm, I think about why, or who, or what caused the urges, and convince myself - if it's a person- that they're not worth it, and that I shouldn't give them the er... privilege *lol* of hurting me, basically it's a f*** you attitude.
I have a piece of wood that is the length of my forearm (knuckles to elbow). I plainted it red and then painted over it white.
When i feel the need to cut, i rest the wood on my arm and use the 'tools' i would usually use to cut myself, to cut the wood.
You can feel the force of the tool, as the wood is resting on your arm, yet it doesnt hurt a bit!
hey, sorry if my ideas have already been suggested, but when I get urges to harm, I think about why, or who, or what caused the urges, and convince myself - if it's a person- that they're not worth it, and that I shouldn't give them the er... privilege *lol* of hurting me, basically it's a f*** you attitude.
i love that! i'll have to try it,
i play guitar hero. haha, keeps the hands occupied
I'm okay... isn't that what I'm suppose to say?
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I definately have to count days (well, months now). The whole "I've made it almost three months without, why should I cut now?" mentality just works for me. I also have one of Dan's hoodies with me and I put that on when I have the urges. It's something I told myself I would never cut in and it feels so warm and soft it's just like he's there hugging me and the urges tend to go away. Red felt pen and red food coloring are also useful for me, oh and this princess coloring book I bought for $1 at walmart.
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i haven't been successful recently as it's easter holidays and the boredom is making me SI...
but i did manage it for MONTHS before...
i make sure i'm not bored... thats my main tip - i ALWAYS think about cutting when bored.
I also write down all my problems on a piece of paper (in red if you so wish...) then use my "tools" to cut up the piece of paper to "cut up" you're problems... v. ritualistic... but it seems to work....
and calling a friend - preferably one who knows you SI - then you can talk about it instead of doing it. and i find crying down the phone the best relief ever..!
hope it works!
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As a little kid you believed in fairytales,
that fantasy of what your life would be: white dress; prince charming who would carry you away to a castle on a hill.
You closed your eyes and had complete and utter faith.
Eventually you grow up. One day you open your eyes and the fairy tale disappears.
But the thing is, it's hard to let go of that fairytale entirely because almost everyone has that smallest bit of hope, of faith,
that one day they will open their eyes and it will come true.
What worked for me was getting rid of sharp things that could be used to harm myself. Since I was broke due to job loss and I get no allowance, I just couldn't afford to get myself anything that I could use to cut. Eventually, I got out of it.
Exercise jsut getting out of the house, going somewhere anywhere on my bike.
And recently i found putting deep freeze gel on my wrist when i want to cut it numbs it, and kind of takes the urge away.
I do line drawings.. They're swirly lines that do connect back with each other, and I color them. The colors usually wind up having to do something with the emotions I'm feeling at that moment. That's when I'm most emotional.
Keeping my hands occupied in general.. Folding origami stars is good.
And talking. Learning to open up and talk to people helps. Finding someone that you can poke at to distract you is very good.
Sitting on my hands so I actually can't hurt myself!
Repeating to myself over and over again, 'you can do this, everything is going to be ok' - tell someone somthing enough times and they'll start to believe it!
Making bread (paticularly good if you're angry) - kneading the dough is fab for punching or doing whatever you want to it...could even make it into the shape of wherever you want to sh...add red food dye, whatever! Plus you get somthing tasty to eat at the end!
Also I've decided that I want to become a social worker and I know I need to get better for that!
I think what has also really helped is that i'm travelling with my best friend who knows and I know I couldn't put her in that position!
Keep up the good work everyone! You are ALL fantastic!
I find that drawing red lines on my arms help me from actually harming myself... You still get the colour of blood etc, but your actually not doing any harm to yourself... This has helped me alot.
recognize that behind every urge is an issue, whether it's the stress of the day, the depression, or your addiction to SI, and that almost every problem HAS a solution. if you can't think of one, you'll often be surprised by other people's ability to find it. if they can't either, ask for help in making it through the tough time until you can manage on your own.
there are always more resources than you think, especially if you take the time to seek them out.