I had a pretty good childhood. Loving stable family, nice house, good friends and a good education. Couple of deaths and a very highly strung mother, but other than that, perfectly normal and happy.
I'm 20 now and my sister often asks me if I was a abused as a child as she doesn't understand how I turned out the way I did.
Sometimes I think one of the trickiest things is remembering good AND bad stuff about childhood. People sometimes feel that their childhood was all good or all bad because it's hard to remember that both usually coexist. Like, earlier in the thread I mentioned being abused and I often remember what I can of my childhood as being really quite negative. But there were happy times too and times that were quite stable. My family weren't wealthy but I lived in a detached house in a cul-de-sac, very child-friendly and with lots of happy times with friends and a dog that I worshipped.
Hard to say it was one or the other...there were very bad bits (rape and sexual assualt, suicides, alcoholism, started SI at 6-7, first OD at 8) but there were fun times too.
It was a family very concerned with 'outward appearances' and a 'what would the neighbours think' mentality...
left home in high school and lived on the streets, was better than home tbh. Further abuses, but, still better than home.
So, no, i dont really think it was "that bad"
Could have been worse im sure.
I would say despite numerous health problems with me, the first 11/12 years of my childhood were pretty fantastic. Loving parents, family, good education. Yeah I got bullied at 10/11/12 but wasn't that bad compared to later on in life I must admit.
But since I went to secondary school, well from one point onwards, things got shaky and went pretty downhill.....
Mine was good, I guess. My mom had a brain injury, so things were pretty hard for her as I was growing up, and for a good part of my childhood I was raised by my, unfortunately abusive, father. He was never physically abusive, just sort of.... I dunno. He made it so I relied on him entirely, sort of... brainwashing sounds a bit too harsh... He was also sexually abusive. Things got worse when he left and I woke up.
But on the whole, I had a nice childhood. I went to a good art school, had lots of friends; I was happy. Yeah, we struggled with money sometimes, but who doesn't. After my dad left, me and my mom didn't really have anywhere to live but her friend took us in.
As other people have said, it could've been way, way worse.
Most of the problems in my life now are caused by myself, and everyone around me just wants to help me.
not great, abuse and hidden mental problems (I went to great lengths to hide everything) made me not very happy... didn't have many friends... but I don't think it was bad, no, I just didn't deal very well.
this is my magical medicine cabinet. Left to right they contain: courage, hope, calmness, and strength.
The magical part: They NEVER run out, so borrow some any time you want.
Compared to the worst, it wasn't bad but for me, it was living hell.
I just regret not getting help when I was younger because you know, it's harder when you're older. People expect you to stand on your own feet, not fall over all the bumps.
Im adopted. I found out when I was 11 and got told that my real mum died when I was born.
At the age of thirteen I found a picture of my real mum.
My mum now found out and has never been the same with me again.
Shes done and called me eevrything under the sun.
Shes made me feel suicidal.
I started cutting because I didint feel loved.
My dad abused me.
My mum emotionally abused me.
My mum and dads realtionship isnt even a realtionship. They dont kiss,hug, have sex, sleep on seprate sides of the bed. (used to be seprate beds) and tell each ither to drop dead.
Theyve threated to phone soical services on me.
Ive tried to kill myself 4 times.
I got used by my first b.f for sex.
The second one I feel in love with cheated on me.
I was bullied in school quite alot.
Ive also had a misscarriage.
Last edited by Miss-Dramatic : 16-08-2009 at 03:15 PM.