confused

[T3ddy377]

I am confused. My therapist asked me if I was ever abused and I said no, yet I don't even know. I don't think so, but none of my friends have ever been disciplined the way I have and I don't feel comfortable asking my therapist. when i was younger I was slapped a lot when ever I said anything out of line or when my parents were speaking. My mother would have a belt that she would use for spanking when ever we did something wrong. she also had this wooden long spoon that she would use as well. it broke and she just duct taped it back together. my dad would also use the belt on bare bottoms sometimes, but he never used the spoon. when we would lie or say things like stupid or other bad words it was soap in the mouth for 20 min or a jalapeno. when my mom would get really angry she would hit and punch and pull our hair and drags us for a cold shower. I don't think it is abuse because they were just disciplining us, but I don't feel comfortable telling people about it. People always say how well behaved and polite i am so it can't have been all bad. to this day i still get slapped or hit if i say a bad word and i'm 20 already. My younger sister says its abuse but i always said it wasn't. so i guess i'm just really confused.

[akita]

Sorry to say but that is abuse.

[Schleier von Dunst]

I know it feels like it was just discipline to you hun, but it seems like it was abuse. As a kid, I would get a smacked bottom if I was bad, but that was the worst punishment I ever got. My brother was the same. When they're using a belt or a spoon, or any of the other things, then that seems to be very extreme and unnecessary.

You say people said you're polite, but could that've been out of fear from what your parents might've done?

[danow-91]

I understand that you're confused,because you were used to this kind of discipline.But when parents start to use items like a belt to discipline their children then it is abuse.No matter what a child does, it's wrong to punish them in the way your parents did.You should remember that this isnt you fault