Oh Rachel sweetie -hugs-
I don't even know where to start with this, it sounds like you have had it so so hard. None of this is fair on you at all.
First of all, try not to put your only experience with health services down as negative and write it off as an option all together. I can tell you I have talked to a couple of people regarding my problems and it's just about finding the person who is compatible for you.
This means that it might help you to try again, maybe find somewhere near you that does counselling (like CAHMS) or go to your GP - you never know, you could find someone who could really help you out.
Secondly, I'm worried you're blaming some of this stuff on yourself, because it sounds like you are. These bullies are calling you things and being horrible to you - that does not mean they are right or that it is your fault at all!!
Bullies often do that to people to project their own insecurities onto others, they are the ones in the wrong and not you.
Also, losing a stone in 29 days is very unsafe and probably not worth the health risks just to get into your prom dress. Is it too late now to try and find a better prom dress that you don't have to lose so much weight for? (Also remember that your size in dress may be different to your size in everyday clothes because it was for me).
In relation to the situation with your mum and dad - I'd suggest maybe trying to sit down and talk to your mum. Maybe tell her your fears about your dad or even your worries about your self harm. You could even show her what you have written here (or alter it a little bit and put it in a letter). If she still finds it hard to understand your self harm you could show her a support site (like RYL).
I only suggest this because my mum reacted to my self harm just like yours has to you. I gave her a link to RYL and she soon understood - she even helped m to get help.
Finally, I'm here if you want to talk and I'm sorry this probably isn't very helpful. I tried to come up with the most useful advice possible but my brain isn't working very fast :)
Lots of love, Emma. x
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