Please remember that we are NOT trained Mental Health professionals.
We are simply friends, fellow sufferers and survivors.
We are not here to save but to support.
We are not here to solve but to understand.
You are not responsible for the life of your friends here. You are not responsible for their illnesses.
Your only responsibility is to give those who ask to be heard the chance to be heard and understood. To offer some love or a hug and friendship when you can. To adhere by the rules of the site and to assist in continuing its welcoming and supportive atmosphere.
Understanding is the greatest gift you can give here!!
Please try to remember this.
Please do not put your own fragile state of health in jeopardy trying to save those around you when that is not the reson why you are here.
Please remember that this is a site for people who are mentally ill, have friends or family of those who are ill or have suffered illness. There are some seriously ill people on here. There are people who harm themselves to dangerous extents and those who are suicidal. As a result there is going to be pain and worry every day! There are going to be daily cuttings and overdoses and suicidal ideations.
Please remember that we were not all brought to this site for happy reasons. Almost all of us were probably brought here out of great distress or sadness, desperation or despair.
It IS a dificult place to be. It IS hard to cope with at times. Please remember this!!! PLEASE DO NOT MAKE YOURSELF ILL OVER THIS SITE!
Please do not feel guilty.
Thanks
Matthew xxx
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~Phoenix~ is my Little Sister of Awesomeness and Self-Delusion :P Bitter Angel is my Mitten Animad is my Top Trump All Im Living For - Is my beautiful and special daughter who isnt called Kim but will moan if i dont add her :P
I think we are here to share our experience, strength and hope and help each other.
Thanks Matthew for saying it so eloquently. It's good to see you back.
My husband is my best friend.
In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
Can I get a hallelujah!
:)
That was well put, thanks so much for reminding us all. I hope this is put as a sticky cause I'd like to remember to remember it or something.
xoxoxoxo
Nullum magnum ingenium sine mixtura dementiae.
Lambchop, LadyMacbeth, Butterfly525, and Moonchild are my sisters. Ruffle is my daughter. That Faery Kid is my kitty!
Matthew
Your wise words and advice is really appreciated, the message you convay is very important and what you put across is greatly appreciated.
for those of us who have been here a while as well as to those who are new here, well done and thank you Matthew.
My friend thank you for this, it is very important for us to remind ourselves why we are here and how much we can support others.
Without neglecting our own support and recovery
I was very moved by what you said my friend
thank you so much mate
Hugs
Dave
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Yeah, we can't help other people if we allow ourselves to become set back in our own illnesses! At the end of the day people make choices and have to take some kind of responsibility sometimes!
iT IS NICE WHEN YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE THOUGH!
However I don't think that there is much doubt that this site has SAVED COUNTLESS LIVES OVER THE YEARS! We are very, very lucky to have it and we owe Harley and the Mods a HUGE THANKYOU!
~Phoenix~ is my Little Sister of Awesomeness and Self-Delusion :P Bitter Angel is my Mitten Animad is my Top Trump All Im Living For - Is my beautiful and special daughter who isnt called Kim but will moan if i dont add her :P
There was a time last year, where I worried SO much about someone here that I felt so ill and made my bad time worse for myself. So yes a very good read.