Adult - Baby Loss Support Thread

[MammaMia]

*hugs* Thanks darling x

[Porcelain Child]

I had a miscarriage.. It hurt at the time and still does..
But i don't let it get to me cos it was quite an early miscarriage..

[Smurfy Boy]

^^ As i am her partner i am the same. I don't let it get me down, it really hurt at the time but we worked through it now.

[MammaMia]

Claire & Neil, I'm glad you try not to let it get to you now & are dealing with it.

Some others, find it much harder naturally, mine was 'early', depending on what you call early I suposse.

[Porcelain Child]

Oh no i am not saying its silly for other people to grieve over early miscarriages.. Everyone deals with them in different ways.. I am just saying that in my life, me and my partner dealt with it as because its was early like 8 weeks.. Obviously we were not happy about it, we were upset and i did get depressed, but we worked it out and talked about it.. Time is a good healer.. I am sorry for everyone who has been suffered a miscarriage, it is not nice at all..

[MammaMia]

*cuddles* I understand better than I did. My apologies.

Made it through but still hurting so bad. Just want to cry.

[shadow-light]

just wanting to reserect this thread a little and make sure everyoe is ok.



Also just wanted to add that personally I see little difference between early and late miscarriages. People always seem to say to me tha the early ones I had must have been easier, esspecially as I didn't know I was pregnant. But I don't think that they were... Then again people also seem to tell me that I shuld be "over them" by now as they were not born so I never knew them so how could I miss them.. but a child does not have to be born for you to form an attachment with it.

I think the only reason I find Sam harder to deal with than my most recent miscariages is because he had a name, is sort of made it all the more real but I don't think I really felt any more strongly about him than I would have about the others had I known about them.
Isabelle I guess was different though as she was born, I held her, she was alive and real. Which I guess is why I find her death the hardest to deal with... The others I can get away with not thinking of as death death as they were still inside me (een though it is still death itt's just easier for me to not think of it that way) but Isabelle was born, seperate dfrom me, so fully alive in her own right.

I don't know... I'm rambling and getting off topic




anyway, how is everyone doing?

[forgiven_one]

I don't know whether i am posting too soon in here. I had a miscarriage the weekend. The pain is unbearable and it hurts so much. I did not even know i was pregnant until the miscarriage happened.

[MammaMia]

*cuddles you both*

Thanks for your first half of the post Hazel, it's nice to have that reminder once in a while. Hope you're coping okay sweetheart *cuddles* Sounds like you're trying to at least.

Jen, it's not too early to post in here sweetheart. I, too, didn't know I was pregnant until I lost her. Although I did have my suspicions. I imagine that's been the case for many people who've had miscarriages. *gentle cuddles*

[forgiven_one]

i kind of had the symptoms the tender breasts, sickness, feeling tired.

I wished i knew sooner. I still need to think of a name

[forgiven_one]

it is a week today since i m/c i am finding it hard

[DannieGirl]

about a month ago i did a preg test and it came up positive, i can't have been morethan 2 weeks gone, then a period turned up, it was worse than ever..lasted way longer too...did a test after and it was negative...i've been so upset about it...
i've only just told my grandmother and the guy who's it was...who was my bf untill he found out i cheated on him 2 weeks ago...i did it cos of the miscarriage and i felt alone as i was suffering from a deep depression whilst it happened...
i really want my ex back...

[Popple]

*hugs*
Im sorry
Do you think you could talk to your ex about what happened? I know it might seem scary but he might be able to understand why you did what you did if he knows that you were struggling a lot.
Have you had any support since it happened?

[Katiee]

wow, I never knew this thread existed!
Hope y'all ok.
I'm here if any of you ever want to talk/need someone.
Take care of yourselfs.
*sending love and hugs* x

[lovelybones]

I had my miscarriage in Feb, I was really excited about being a mum but I'm better about it now. It seems like everyone I know is having kids & I feel sort of lonely, you know? My husband has two friends that are married to each other & didn't want a kid, now the girl is pregnant. Made me sort of angry (jealousy, I know) I am back on birthcontrol (can't stand the thought of losing another) & about to be a full-time student in January, but I'm just sad still.

Pity party's over :) How is everyone doing? hugs to all of you and take care xx

[x-dying-inside-x]

I miss you and think of you everyday.
i wish things had been different.

[tiptoes]

My younger sister should of had a twin. We call her Melissa, we've no idea if she was a girl or a boy.
She would be 18 now.
I can't stop thinking about her at the moment.
She keeps talking to me
She left me a note the other day.

It's like she is here, I wish she was.
I'm living 200 miles from my other sisters and I could really use them

Melissa, she always knows when to visit me...

[lovelybones]

*hugs* I'm glad you talk to her & stuff :) hang in there dear.

[onepapergirl]

I'm sorry I didn't protect you good enough. I'm so so sorry.

[DestroyMe]

I'm...not sure waht to post here...
I lost her on March 25th '08 I was two and a half months
I didn't diagnostically know the gender but I just...knew..I guess,,that she was a girl.
and I'm just now greiving...I kinda shut down when I lsot her.