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Old 03-03-2020, 08:57 PM   #1
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Hi so I just thought I'd make a new thread as my previous one was getting long and some of it was no longer relevant.

I'm also posting because I've been stuck in hospital under section for nearly 9 months. I'm just getting no where. Yes I have leave which can help but I have to go out with someone and it's purely a distraction. As I said to the consultant last week not only have they failed my friend who I unfortunately found dead in Decemeber last year but they've failed me. Because I haven't progressed. I don't feel any better even if it seems that way to some people. I'm not getting anything out of this admission. I just want to be at home or somewhere even if it's supported housing with my cat who I've missed so much and who I've let down so badly.

My grief and trauma over finding my friend has also turned to anger so in my review last week I made it clear the hospital and staff etc were liable and I know that cause they admitted liability to my friend's family who told me the day of the funeral. So many failings. And now my friend is gone. Because of them. If only they'd put in these procedures beforehand.

Sorry this has turned into a little bit like a rant. The point is I'm struggling and don't know where to turn. I feel alone and so trapped and hopeless.

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Old 04-03-2020, 05:55 PM   #2
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Hey I don't have any advice but I'm sending hugs don't know the proper button to do it any other way. U can get thru this hugs

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Old 04-03-2020, 06:17 PM   #3
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Thank you I had my ward review today and the consultant is saying I have to stay for at least another month I just don't think I can do it

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Old 04-03-2020, 07:28 PM   #4
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You've managed 9 months so far, is 1 more month waiting worse than waiting say another 9 months? Do they have a plan for discharge yet?

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Old 04-03-2020, 10:03 PM   #5
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No but I just feel like I've waited long enough and it's all been a waste of time as it is. No plans for discharge yet. They want to see if the lithium works first which is likely to take around a month from now. Also got to take into account I may be going into a supported housing unit so that could make the process even longer. And if the lithium doesn't work then I don't know.

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Old 05-03-2020, 09:28 AM   #6
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Psychologist gave up on me what a surprise. Feel like giving up. May as well start planning it

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Old 06-03-2020, 12:39 AM   #7
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What would psychologist do to show she cares?





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Old 06-03-2020, 11:00 AM   #8
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What has the psychologist done to give up on you?





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Old 06-03-2020, 01:07 PM   #9
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She didn't come to see me on Tuesday as agreed. Then she turned up in my bedroom yesterday because I wrote a letter saying our sessions were ending. She was basically like "I don't know what's happened for you to not want to meet anymore.Last time we met it went well...blah blah blah. I'm not interested anymore if she comes near me I'll tell her to leave me alone.

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Old 06-03-2020, 06:40 PM   #10
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I'm sorry she didn't come to see you on the day you set - did she explain why that happened?

You sound so frustrated and I hear you. <3







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Old 06-03-2020, 08:49 PM   #11
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She just said she had a "few things come up."
I am so frustrated.

I'm just sick of being second best.

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Old 07-03-2020, 12:34 PM   #12
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Old 07-03-2020, 03:15 PM   #13
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It sounds confusing, like you want her to support you but you also don't and then ask to end the sessions. Sometimes things come up and sessions can't go ahead as planned but that's no ones fault. If she has to cancel someone else's session because you were in a crisis point and there was no other support available I'm sure she would.





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Old 07-03-2020, 06:05 PM   #14
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I think it's pretty straight forward. I'm done with her.

I think I'm second best because she puts everyone else before me basically.

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Old 07-03-2020, 06:44 PM   #15
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I can see why that must be very difficult and confusing for you.

As another perspective...you wouldn’t know about the times where she put you before other people. I get the feeling abandoned when she doesn’t attend planned sessions and I don’t think that’s an unreasonable response at all. She is human though and you don’t know the details of other clients and their needs or crises. If she didn’t care, why would she have waited outside your door etc in case you changed your mind?





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Old 07-03-2020, 10:58 PM   #16
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I don't really care to be honest I'm past the point of caring

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Old 07-03-2020, 11:08 PM   #17
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But you made this thread and it seems pretty clear you’re feeling distressed by what’s going on and what you’re feeling. That doesn’t really seem like someone who is ‘past the point of caring’. It sounds like someone who is hurting and cares an awful lot x





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Old 08-03-2020, 11:36 AM   #18
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I guess so.

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Old 08-03-2020, 06:16 PM   #19
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I just want to get out of here

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Old 08-03-2020, 10:56 PM   #20
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I can understand that (as much as anybody who isnít currently in your position can). It sounds really difficult. Maybe right now youíre not in a place to know what might help, but in the more positive moments it might be helpful to think about what you HAVE found helpful, even in the moment. I know you want to get out of hospital and Iím sure you agree whatís happening now isnít working, or at least not helping how youíd hope or in the time scale youíd hope. Iím sure hospital and the staff arenít perfect, but Iím also sure there have been the odd moments or things said or done that have helped a tiny bit. Maybe try and think about those times as a starting point? Tired so not sure Iíve worded this as well as I could have done but I hope you get the jist. And just because things are still crappy, genuinely doesnít mean they always will be.





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