Originally Posted by Lou Lou
I know its very hard but the best thing to do is give her a hug and a kiss and walk out without engaging her about how upset she is. Soon she'll understand she can't get your attention that way and will stop.
Its very normal for children to act like this, its usually because they're afraid their parent wont return.
I wasn't able to see my almost 3 year old for a little while at the begining of the year (because of depression) and when i did see him it wasn't like normal. he spent most of his time with his dad (For 2 or 3 months)
When everything was back to normal, he would cry and scream when i dropped him off at nursery. Before we'd never had a problem, he was really secure and would go to nursery just fine. It broke my heart so much.
What i did was, like Lou Lou said, kiss him say goodbye and go. He'd scream. I'd cry walking about to my car. I hated myself for it. But then I'd call nursery about 10/20 minutes later to check he'd calmed down and he always had.
Children soon learn (if you're consistent) that you will
return and they don't need to get worked up and cause a scene.
Like others have said, try not to lengthen out the goodbyes, keep it short and sweet. try calling nursery a bit later to reassure yourself. And also it would be worth having a word with the staff to see if they have any concerns or suggestions. My nursery have been fab at helping be work through issues.
Try not to panic. If you or nursery are still concerned you should probably see your G.P or child's health visitor. x x