You're not any of those negative things but I know it can feel like that. Especially after not getting the job I can imagine those feelings will be heightened. Lots of people are unsuccessful at job interviews and that doesn't make them pointless etc, it also doesn't mean you won't be successful with another interview and maybe that job would be better suited to you so you'd be glad you didn't get this one. Have you considered volunteering? I know I keep mentioning it. That would give you purpose and boost your CV. Please be kind to yourself.
I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
Of course, but most kinds of volunteering are seen as positive to employers. It wouldn't have to be related to dentistry, if there is something else you might be interested in or get some enjoyment from. You could maybe do something in healthcare though like volunteer visiting if you were up for that.
I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
I'm sorry you haven't had the support you were supposed to get today. Will something be rearranged? Do you need to contact anyone else if they can offer something? It's hard to enjoy things when you feel so low etc, but trying something new might surprise you. I can understand the cat biting you making everything seem even bigger and less manageable, little things often do. Is there anything safe you can do right now that would help?
I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
Ive got a new job. Start Tuesday. Im pleased and excited but also terrified. Its led to self harm already and Im worried the cutting will turn to burning which would be much more serious and jeopardise the new job.
Im scared that I will have forgotten everything and won't be good enough.
The Man is telling me to burn or I will hurt people.
Physically Im scared I won't cope with going straight to full time. My pain levels are better now Im back on meds but not as good as they were before meds were stopped. And the exhaustion and fatigue is really bad. At the moment I can't even stay awake the whole day. Walking to the bus feels like a marathon. How am I going to do that, a full day at work, and commute 55 minutes on a bus each way?
Is this something you could talk to your new employers about? They may be able to possibly start you off part-time for a little while. I don't know what you've told them already, if anything, but they seemed really keen to hire you (and rightly so) which makes me think they would be understanding and do what they can to make things easier for you.
I can guarantee you won't have forgotten everything though! Hurting yourself, whatever the reason, will just exacerbate the struggles you have already. Why does the man think you will hurt people? Do YOU think you will hurt people if you don't hurt yourself?
I haven't told them anything apart from I lost my last job due to a serious cooking accident and burn that required surgery. In explanation of why I wear a pressure sleeve and time off. They asked me if I had any health problems that meant I may need to take time off work and I said no.
I will do some revision tomorrow which will help I think.
The Man says I'm evil. I believe Him. Im getting very stressed and panicky.
You're not evil at all and I don't believe you'd hurt anyone. I'm sure everyone here would say the same and we outnumber the man. Try not to believe him.
I agree with np. The Man lies. I'm sure you are good at your job, and other things besides. But even if you weren't, you would still be a valuable human being.
That is fair enough. See how things go first. I know you like to push yourself to do everything but asking for help is not a weakness, it is actually a strength. I'm not nagging (I hope I don't sound like I am), I just think it will make things easier if you're not feeling like you need to cover everything up and do everything alone.
I don't think a person's worth should ever be judged on the pain they inflict upon themselves. Not just in self harm terms, we're all our own worst critics and it's so so easy to believe what we think of ourselves over what other people think but we never ever are all the bad things we think we are. You aren't the bad person you believe you are.
I say take the risk, Lillie. I am absolutely certain you won't hurt people if you don't do what the man says.
It wouldn't. Nothing is made better by a wonderful human not being here anymore.
And hurting yourself isn't all you are good at. You are good at dental nursing, being a general superhuman, caring for people and making yule log when everyone else including the host buggers off to the park :P
You are good at so much Lillie. You have a huge heart and you are one of the cleverest people I know. Your honesty and humour are incredible in the face of all you have been through.
This place certainly wouldn't be the same without you.
'It's an impossible choice ... I'll just have to hope that when I flip the coin it somehow explodes and kills me.'
"You're not scared of climbing mountains. You're scared that you can't make them move."
You are good at so much Lillie. You have a huge heart and you are one of the cleverest people I know. Your honesty and humour are incredible in the face of all you have been through.
This place certainly wouldn't be the same without you.
