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Old 22-10-2017, 10:05 PM   #41521
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I live alone I’ve had a friend over the past few days all they do is sleep they aren’t doing good either. I’m sick of people’s saying don’t go outside it doesn’t matter what your doing or wearing bad things happen and that doesn’t help. I don’t know kid I wanna be dead or alive . Is it selfish to want everything to stop because your hurting.






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Old 22-10-2017, 10:13 PM   #41522
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I don't think it's selfish but it's not the answer. Sometimes all I need is a little crumb of something good to break in and then those feelings go away so I think it's just about finding it somewhere.

It's tricky when you're around other people who are in a similar mindframe. I think a few days of being inside and indulging yourself can be good, but after that it makes the agoraphobia worse so I'd suggest maybe just getting out to a park or something, with headphones to block out the world a bit, some fresh air and see some nature or squirrels or whatever. Sounds a bit lame but that's just what I'd do.



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Old 26-10-2017, 01:46 PM   #41523
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How do you talk to family and friends about this? How do i tell my fiance without him worrying about me. If i do anything that suggests im being careless or being reckless he starts to worry. The reckless part is a major part of bpd. I dont want him to worry or be annoying about it. Honestly when he tells me to be careful it bothers me. I dont want to be careful.



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Old 27-10-2017, 05:46 PM   #41524
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Well, I'm not sure if I'm the best person to advise Sock. Out of my family I've only told my older sister and she hasn't been helpful at all. She makes a joke about me being BPD and tells people when we go to the pub. I think she likes the fact that she can view me as 'mental' because it makes her feel better about herself.

I've told one friend who was supportive but doesn't really know anything about BPD and I only see her once every couple of months. My ex knows too but he has narcissistic personality disorder so I try not to have any contact with him now.

It's a good sign that your fiancee worries about you, it shows he cares, and I think the main thing is to keep the communication lines open. My therapist helped when she told me that just because now I'm diagnosed as having BPD, it doesn't mean that I will always have it. It is possible to recover, you need to work hard, go to counseling or CBT or DBT, read books, talk to people on forums like this, go to support groups, try mindfulness, exercise, self care, etc. You're going through a rough time but it doesn't have to define you, and you can explain that to your fiancee so he can help you too.



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Old 30-10-2017, 09:27 PM   #41525
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I’ve hit a low
What a mess I made






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Old 01-12-2017, 01:22 PM   #41526
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Is it possible for 2 siblings to both have bpd?
I ask because my sister often shows symptoms of BPD, more so than i do. And she is what seems to be the classic case of BPD, threats not to leave, displaying anger she cannot control, often coming across manipulative.
Myself, on the other hand dont come across this way.
She's not diagnosed, i am. I have told her to get help a few times but she doesnt want to.
I know no one here can say whetehr or not she has BPD, but thats not why i ask. I ask because despite her not being diagnosed, I read the symptoms and think, 'that's not me, thats my sister' - and so its making it hard for me to accept.
I've also mentioned my diagnosis to her and her response was 'that sounds more like me than you'



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Old 01-12-2017, 04:51 PM   #41527
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I read that there are over 100 ways to meet the criteria for BPD so there are many different presentations of it in different people. Lots of mental health problems are shared by family members because of genetics and being brought up in a similar environment etc so it's definitely plausible that you both struggle with BPD. Is there a diagnosis you think fits your symptoms better than BPD? If you're struggling to see why you have been diagnosed you should definitely speak to someone involved in your treatment.





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Old 02-12-2017, 09:22 PM   #41528
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Hi there,

I recently attended an NHS workshop (UK) as part of a programme called "recovery college" - They are still a fairly "new" thing so if it hasn't come to your area yet, i'm sure it will soon but I do recommend them - They are made up of NHS professionals alongside volunteers who have the illness so you get a balance of practical / textbook and lived in experience. They offer a variety of courses or workshops and there was one specifically for "understanding personality disorders" so I thought it may be helpful to share some info.

What is a personality disorder? (Plain English Summary)
A personality disorder is to do with the particular ways someone feels, thinks and acts typically over a long period of time. These ways are very different from how people from the same background would feel, think and act. A personality disorder will affect at least 2 out of 4 areas:
- Thinking
- Feelings / Emotion
- Relationships with others
- Control of urges

These long standing ways of feeling and acting are difficult to change and can create distress for the person or make it difficult for them to function.


Sock posted a few days ago and said the criteria felt more fitting for her sister. It may be interesting to know there are 256 different possible combinations of the criteria to be diagnosed with BPD / EUPD, so it can affect people in very different ways even if we have the same label. I have read accounts where I have been left feeling as if perhaps maybe I have the wrong diagnosis and other times I will read something that really resonates with me, so it is worth bearing in mind even with a diagnosis it is not a "one size fits all" label. I found BPD a very difficult label to accept. I'm not entirely sure why - Did I hope for something else? BPD seems "messy" to me. It felt like a long journey to be diagnosed and then when you finally have some clarity, it feels like there is very limited support and understanding - so how the hell can you make sense of it yourself?

Hope everyone who reads this is taking some positive steps to their own recovery.


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