Graphic - Relationship problems with a guy/coworker
I'm not entirely sure if this belongs in the Serious Discussion and Advice forum, but I figured I should put it here just in case.
I don't really know how to explain it, so I'm just going to put it out there, because I can't tell anyone in RL.
I haven't been this bad in a really long time, not for a few years at least. I've been thinking about suicide a lot and been self harming; even though the self harm is fairly recent.
There's this guy I've liked for a long time at work, but he was engaged to a girl that also worked with us, so I (obviously) wrote him off and tried to forget that I liked him. In November, they broke up because she cheated on him with several different guys (most of whom we also work with).
In December he took a girl to our work's Christmas party, and we all sat together. She was really nice and pretty, and completely opposite from me.
Also in December, he figured out that I liked him, and we started texting a lot and trying to hang out outside of work. At this point, I thought he wasn't seeing the girl he'd taken to the Christmas party.
Anyway, here's the part that I'm worried about. I'm an idiot... I've never kissed a guy before (I'm 20) and I've never really been on a date. So before our date he had sent me some pictures - which I'm sure you can assume what they were - and pressured me into sending him some pictures of my boobs.
That weekend (last Saturday) we went on a date. He didn't take me anywhere to eat or anything, which is what I was expecting. We drove outside of town, and he parked on a dirt road and we just started talking. We did some stuff (no se.x) but showed some things (in case it's important, my pants stayed on...)
And then this morning, I saw on Facebook that he apparently asked the girl out that he took to the Christmas party.
He also has a 2 year old daughter. (Both the daughter and previous engagement were red flags, and I'm sure most of this is my fault)
So I know that we weren't dating or anything... but it still hurts a lot. I feel even worse than I did before we started talking. I feel like he used me... or like he was trying to see how far I would go since I'm a virgin.
I might be overreacting - I wouldn't be surprised if I was, but I'm just really disappointed. I'm not even mad at him, not really. I'm mostly mad at myself for showing him my boobs and such, and I feel dirty and used.
I guess this is more of a rant than anything else, but if you're still reading thank you. I'm sorry if it didn't make a lot of sense.
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