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Old 03-11-2019, 11:31 AM   #1
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My grandma died

I know I'm not on here as much and haven't been for a little while....but any hugs or whatever would be appreciated.



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Old 03-11-2019, 11:40 AM   #2
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I'm so sorry *huge hugs* Please look after yourself. How are you doing?





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Old 03-11-2019, 12:03 PM   #3
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Massive hugs for you, lovely. <3

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Old 03-11-2019, 12:14 PM   #4
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So sorry to hear that buttons
Sending hugs <3



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Old 03-11-2019, 12:42 PM   #5
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I am sorry for your loss Buttons.

*sends hugs*



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Old 03-11-2019, 12:54 PM   #6
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So sorry to hear that lovely.




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Old 03-11-2019, 01:08 PM   #7
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Sending huge hugs



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Old 03-11-2019, 04:05 PM   #8
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Really sorry for your loss sweetheart.
Be kind to yourself x

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Old 03-11-2019, 07:17 PM   #9
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Sorry for your loss. *hugs*



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Old 03-11-2019, 08:43 PM   #10
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Sending lots of love to you and Molly. I know things with your family can be challenging, so I hope you are able to get closure and grieve in as safe of a way as possible.



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Old 04-11-2019, 02:37 AM   #11
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I'm sorry for your loss.

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Old 04-11-2019, 12:09 PM   #12
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Thanks all. Feel a bit in shock atm.



'Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.'

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Old 04-11-2019, 12:18 PM   #13
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That's definitely natural. I hope you are looking after yourself. Do you have some support?





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Old 04-11-2019, 06:48 PM   #14
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Some yes. Family situ bit awkward though.



'Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.'

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Old 04-11-2019, 07:23 PM   #15
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We are here for you in whatever way we can be. <3





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Old 06-11-2019, 05:21 PM   #16
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I;m falling apart.



'Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.'

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Old 06-11-2019, 06:03 PM   #17
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I can understand that feeling. There is so much going on for you right now inside of yourself and outside of yourself. Do you want to talk about how you are?





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Old 06-11-2019, 06:56 PM   #18
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I now have the funeral date. Don't quite know how I'm going to cope being so physically close to my 9 year sexual abuser (haven't seen him in 14 years) and still focus in the important things: her, her service, she has the preacher she wanted, and a fairly rubbish poem from me.

How I can be this selfish when everyone else in the family etc is grieving as well...but I;m cut out of all of that because my abuser;s wife (and maybe him-maybe in the run up Definitely there for funeral( will be there so it would be awkward,. Best I remain in the shadows where everyone wants me.

I feel so low and something as stupid as a sodding date has sent me west. How I;m going to keep on putting the smile up no idea.


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'Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.'

[''There is only one thing we say to death. Not today'.']

'I wish I was the monster you think I am.'


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Old 06-11-2019, 07:03 PM   #19
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Oh lovely, this is bound to be an upsetting and difficult time without the family situation.

I don't have many words but we are here for you, whatever you need.



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Old 06-11-2019, 07:04 PM   #20
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Your smile is not something you are obliged to give to anyone but the people who make you want to smile. And if your family can't behave themselves during a funeral then they are, quite frankly, a disgrace.

Buttons, this is your Grandma's funeral and she would have wanted you to attend. You have as much right to grieve and say goodbye as everyone else!!!! The people who hurt you have no right to make you feel unwelcome or unwanted. She was your family!!! Which is more than can be said about those who choose not to believe your part of the story.

Go there Buttons!!!! Say goodbye. Don't let them take this from you!!!!!

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