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Old 05-11-2012, 10:58 PM   #41
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Is there anyone you can talk to?



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Old 05-11-2012, 11:00 PM   #42
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Is there anyone you can talk to?
i might be able to talk to on eof my friend
atually if i talk to one of my freind with a big mouth, she might tell him which might get his attention





I still think the world would be better off without me
Some people, when they hit rock bottom, they dont have that person in their lives to pick them back up
The mirror can lie, it doesnt show you whats on the inside.
I dont think im fixed, people think that your like a car in a body shop, you go in, they fix you and your out, you work like your brand new, it doesnt work like that at all
Sometimes i dont understand my self.
Im not strong enough and im tired of pretending i am.

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Old 05-11-2012, 11:01 PM   #43
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we should never base our plans for getting better on someone else or their actions. we can't control what other people do, only what we do. getting better means taking responsibility for yourself and learning that you can rely on yourself to get through the difficult times. if you end up needing someone else to get you through the urges, you're never going to learn that you can do it on your own and won't be able to continue staying well when things change. you are strong enough to do this, and having support definitely helps, but you can't base your recovery on someone else doing something specific.....
This.

Stop cutting for yourself. Not someone else.



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Old 05-11-2012, 11:02 PM   #44
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You will ALWAYS be hurting if you need people too much. They learn they can get away with disregarding you. That's human nature. The attitude you want with regard to this boy is "if you get him you do and if you don't you don't". That's balance even if it sounds cold. No doubt you think this guy walks on water because he sends you to the moon but the truth is he wakes up and burps just like every other male clump of flesh. Nobody is THAT special and don't get needy. That kind of need comes from being treated wrong by parents. Being ignored and/or spoiled will do it (both are out of balance)

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Old 05-11-2012, 11:03 PM   #45
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Honey, if this is to get a guys attention, it's not going to work. Nothing turns people away faster, than them thinking you are manipulating them, etc.

Like the others have said, forget the boy. Do this for you. You have your whole life ahead of you, don't throw it way on some boy who won't give you the time of day.



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atually if i talk to one of my freind with a big mouth, she might tell him which might get his attention
It might do. It might not. It probably won't be the kind of attention you want and sadly it might make him want nothing to do with you because he doesn't want to deal with self harming problems.

It's a sad state of affairs but some people don't understand and simply don't want anything to do with it.

Be prepared to deal with that & don't make this guy out to be your saviour. Only you can save yourself.



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Honey, if this is to get a guys attention, it's not going to work. Nothing turns people away faster, than them thinking you are manipulating them, etc.
Yeah sorry for the double post & ****. But this, majorly, majorly this ^^^



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Old 05-11-2012, 11:33 PM   #48
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okk........................................anyone got any other ideas





I still think the world would be better off without me
Some people, when they hit rock bottom, they dont have that person in their lives to pick them back up
The mirror can lie, it doesnt show you whats on the inside.
I dont think im fixed, people think that your like a car in a body shop, you go in, they fix you and your out, you work like your brand new, it doesnt work like that at all
Sometimes i dont understand my self.
Im not strong enough and im tired of pretending i am.

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Old 05-11-2012, 11:36 PM   #49
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I think you're looking for us to give you some magic answer to get this guys attention, but really there isn't anything, and the more stuff (self harm, etc.) you do to grab his attention, the quicker you'll frighten him away.

Look after yourself first, talk to your mum and dad, and tell them what's going on. You can get better from this, but not by chasing after this boy



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Old 06-11-2012, 09:19 PM   #50
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I'm sorry you are having relationship problems.

Cutting isn't going to solve the situation, although I know it must seem like it's helping in some way but it isn't.

How are you doing today?

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Old 07-11-2012, 09:34 PM   #51
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help mee

incase you havent seen my other forums i am 15 years old doing my GCSE's in school. i have alomost been killed by my dad when i was 2-3, i have been anarexic and belimic, i am dyslexic. I cut because of a boy and because of that people call me pathetic and stupid ect
my dad kiked me out and was shouting at me because one of my teachers told him i was cutting.


My mate told me today that the boy i like likes me as a friend not a girlfriend, but if he like me as a friend then why is he ignoring/avoiding me and how can i get him to stop ignoring me, i just want someone to tell him that i cut because of him and see if he reacts to it or if he'll keep ignoring me. some one should realy tell him at ignoring me isnt going to make me stop liking him, atually if might make me wont him more





I still think the world would be better off without me
Some people, when they hit rock bottom, they dont have that person in their lives to pick them back up
The mirror can lie, it doesnt show you whats on the inside.
I dont think im fixed, people think that your like a car in a body shop, you go in, they fix you and your out, you work like your brand new, it doesnt work like that at all
Sometimes i dont understand my self.
Im not strong enough and im tired of pretending i am.

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Old 07-11-2012, 10:27 PM   #52
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I think you may have an issue with stalking & need help.

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Old 07-11-2012, 10:29 PM   #53
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I think you may have an issue with stalking & need help.
i dont stalk him, u dont even know me





I still think the world would be better off without me
Some people, when they hit rock bottom, they dont have that person in their lives to pick them back up
The mirror can lie, it doesnt show you whats on the inside.
I dont think im fixed, people think that your like a car in a body shop, you go in, they fix you and your out, you work like your brand new, it doesnt work like that at all
Sometimes i dont understand my self.
Im not strong enough and im tired of pretending i am.

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Old 07-11-2012, 10:32 PM   #54
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i just want someone to tell him that i cut
Why don't you tell him then? Serious question, as I imagine you have reasons why you wouldn't tell him, which might help you to get some perspective.

What would you want him to do? Say that he'll be with you so you don't cut yourself? Because that's not the foundation for a successful relationship.



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we can only comment going on what information you have given us, so whether we know you or not doesnt come in to it, we are expressing opinions on what you tell us. with that in mind, i agree with whale.

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Old 07-11-2012, 10:35 PM   #56
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Hi honey,
You might find this better suited in General Support and Advice (you can ask a mod to move it if you want) as it's probably better suited there.

In all honestly, love is complicated (and you probably don't want to hear my all-men-are-jerks rant!) but it might be best to step back, give him some space and see what happens. And remember, you are much more important than any guy.



It doesn't matter where you come from; it matters where you go.
No-one gets remembered for the things they didn't do.
We won't all be here this time next year,
so while you can take a picture of us.
We're definitely going to hell,
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Old 07-11-2012, 10:37 PM   #57
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Why don't you tell him then? Serious question, as I imagine you have reasons why you wouldn't tell him, which might help you to get some perspective.

What would you want him to do? Say that he'll be with you so you don't cut yourself? Because that's not the foundation for a successful relationship.
no i wouldnt want him to do that cos its not real, i want him to stop ignoring me so we can be friends (ish)





I still think the world would be better off without me
Some people, when they hit rock bottom, they dont have that person in their lives to pick them back up
The mirror can lie, it doesnt show you whats on the inside.
I dont think im fixed, people think that your like a car in a body shop, you go in, they fix you and your out, you work like your brand new, it doesnt work like that at all
Sometimes i dont understand my self.
Im not strong enough and im tired of pretending i am.

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Old 07-11-2012, 10:38 PM   #58
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Hi honey,
You might find this better suited in General Support and Advice (you can ask a mod to move it if you want) as it's probably better suited there.

In all honestly, love is complicated (and you probably don't want to hear my all-men-are-jerks rant!) but it might be best to step back, give him some space and see what happens. And remember, you are much more important than any guy.
im giving him space cos i cant talk to hm unless he talks to me first





I still think the world would be better off without me
Some people, when they hit rock bottom, they dont have that person in their lives to pick them back up
The mirror can lie, it doesnt show you whats on the inside.
I dont think im fixed, people think that your like a car in a body shop, you go in, they fix you and your out, you work like your brand new, it doesnt work like that at all
Sometimes i dont understand my self.
Im not strong enough and im tired of pretending i am.

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Old 07-11-2012, 10:39 PM   #59
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You can't make someone be your friend/boyfriend if they don't want to, no matter how hard you try.

Why don't you put yourself first, leave the boy, and concentrate on getting better for you, and for all the people who care about you.



It doesn't matter where you come from; it matters where you go.
No-one gets remembered for the things they didn't do.
We won't all be here this time next year,
so while you can take a picture of us.
We're definitely going to hell,
but we'll have all the best stories to tell.


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Old 07-11-2012, 10:40 PM   #60
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telling him you self harm because of him will probably ensure that he distances himself from you even more. at best it may make him involved because of guilt, but that WILL fall apart for both of you. you can't tell people about your self harm to manipulate them.




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