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Old 30-09-2014, 04:31 PM   #1
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Contains sexual abuse - I'm not strong right now

I was sexually abused by my father when I was younger. I haven't heard from him in years, haven't seen him since the last time (I was 13, I'm 19 now).
I'm finally in a place where I feel safe. It took moving states away and cutting off all possible means of communication with him (blocked on Facebook, changing phone numbers every time I see an opportunity, not telling the rest of my family the address). In the year I've been living here, I haven't seen or spoken to my family, and they seem fine with that.
I finally felt free. Last night, I checked my Facebook and I found a message from him, in my "Other" box. He created a new Facebook just to intimidate me.

I never told ANYONE what happened, no one that could do anything. The message said, basically, "I don't know who spoke. It was you or [Insert half-sister's name here]." I didn't know he'd ever done anything to her. I know her mom left him. I know he wasn't allowed to see her.
I didn't sleep last night. My fiance wasn't able to touch me without warning me. It hurt so much to shut him out like that.

I've been okay for so long. Seeing him in my inbox triggered new memories. I can't even talk about them. I can't do anything. I'm exhausted and I can't sleep. I want to cut so badly but I CAN'T let my fiance down.
I'm not strong right now.

I'm so sorry if this was lengthy and scattered.

Hold your head high, heavy heart

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Old 05-10-2014, 07:50 PM   #2
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Do you have contact with your half sister? do you think you could bring it up with her?

Can you talk to your fiance about it?
Stay safe

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Old 07-10-2014, 01:57 PM   #3
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I understand why this would be so unsettling and I'm sorry he has contacted you.
Do you feel able to talk to anyone now about how you're feeling?
I wonder if a new Facebook with a different name is a good idea so he can't find you. Or blocking him also should stop the messages, maybe ask your fiancée to do it so you don't have to revist the message to block him.
Take care of yourself and be gentle on you xxx

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