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23-10-2014, 09:10 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: London
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I think my mum has EUPD but I don't know what I can do.
My care coordinator and I believe strongly that my mum has EUPD (Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder). However my mum has no insight into her problems. She also has had anorexia since she was a teenager. And she's had an alcohol problem for most of 17 years (I believe she drinks less now as she hasn't got much money).
I would like advice on how I can be of help to her and how I can look after myself too when I am with her, as I find emotions hard to understand.
This evening she texted me and asked me, with no warning, to walk a kilometre to a place to meet her because she wanted to give me some soup. I said it is dark and I am really busy with uni work, and that I cannot cope with sudden changes to routine. I said (politely) can I collect it tomorrow morning, I am happy to meet her up then. She replied with "you know how to hurt me!" I did not understand how she came to that conclusion. So I called her. She kept me on the phone for 38 minutes and she had so much vocal inflection in her speech that I found it hard to follow. I have had increased anxiety since and I am trying to avert a meltdown. She wants to call me again later on!
My mum gets very hyper and agitated if she doesn't have company every hour of her waking day. I understand that is her personality type but it clashes with my strong introversion.
I want to help my mum and be a good daughter, but I really don't know how. Every time I respond to her, she reacts in a way I do not understand.
Advice?
Last edited by Steel Maiden : 23-10-2014 at 09:12 PM.
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PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10 or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
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23-10-2014, 10:32 PM
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I'm a bit late, but I'd suggest turning your phone off. Sometimes people behave in an unreasonable manner, and it sounds like your mum does a lot (you've mentioned other things before) but, ultimately only a professional would be able to diagnose a PD. From what you've said before your mum has quite a strong negative impact on your wellbeing - I think there was mention of a possible restraining order at one point? - so I wonder if it might be better to avoid contact?
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No-one gets remembered for the things they didn't do. We won't all be here this time next year,
so while you can take a picture of us. We're definitely going to hell,
but we'll have all the best stories to tell.
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23-10-2014, 10:36 PM
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There is no place like 127.0.0.1
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Originally Posted by talaiporia
I'm a bit late, but I'd suggest turning your phone off. Sometimes people behave in an unreasonable manner, and it sounds like your mum does a lot (you've mentioned other things before) but, ultimately only a professional would be able to diagnose a PD. From what you've said before your mum has quite a strong negative impact on your wellbeing - I think there was mention of a possible restraining order at one point? - so I wonder if it might be better to avoid contact?
I blocked her on my phone (I have a blocking app) so all her calls to me will go straight to voicemail.
My mum emotionally blackmails me quite often. However I saw her on Tuesday this week (the day before my birthday) when my care coordinator had just had a 30 minute conversation with her about my autism. My mum showed understanding on Tuesday, but today she is back to expecting me to understand emotions and handle people.
I have to give her a letter tomorrow (it was sent to her old address, which is this house, and she refuses to give me her address so I can't post it to her), but she said she won't take me out, we will just exchange letter for soup (she made me soup) and go. Let's hope that happens.
I said to my care coordinator that my mum is an anti-me.
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PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10 or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
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23-10-2014, 10:39 PM
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Do you think it is beneficial for you to have contact with your mum? It sounds like she is manipulative and has a lack of understanding for your autism-related difficulties.
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It doesn't matter where you come from; it matters where you go.
No-one gets remembered for the things they didn't do. We won't all be here this time next year,
so while you can take a picture of us. We're definitely going to hell,
but we'll have all the best stories to tell.
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23-10-2014, 10:41 PM
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There is no place like 127.0.0.1
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: London
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I would prefer if she could permanently move to Poland (where she comes from) tbh. But if I block her out, she sends me blackmail through email and through the letterbox.
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PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10 or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
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24-10-2014, 08:34 PM
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There is no place like 127.0.0.1
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: London
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I'll be limiting contact with my mum then. As for educating her about EUPD, that's a good idea. I might just talk to her about it in a geneal sense, perhaps she'll realise.
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PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10 or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
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