Triggering (SI/Sexual Abuse) - *ADULT* Is it sexual abuse?
God, I can't believe I'm actually writing this, but...
If you let someone have sex with you... like, when you don't want it but use it as a form of self injury... is that still sexual abuse?
I feel like the world's biggest moron for asking, but I really, really need to know...
Not afraid of crying, sorrow and foe.
Not afraid of falling down below.
To the night, recklessly we fly.
Like living dead, we'll never die
(Children of Bodom~Living dead beat)
I'm... I dunno... I'm just confused right now and was wondering about that and... I just needed to ask. I just needed an answer so I could find out how f***ed up I am...
Not afraid of crying, sorrow and foe.
Not afraid of falling down below.
To the night, recklessly we fly.
Like living dead, we'll never die
(Children of Bodom~Living dead beat)
*hugs* you're not ****ed up hun, but you do need to ask yourself why you have sex when you don't really want it.
it's really only assault or abuse if the other person forces you or ignores you when you ask him to stop.
there's obviously something happening for you emotionally, maybe finding someone to talk to about this might help you to understand it. you're not the only person who does this sort of thing, i've done it in the past too.
take care sweetie and PM if you need to talk xoxoxox
Do not follow the common path.....go where there is no path and leave a trail.....
Well, I know why I do it, but I guess you're right that I should talk to someone about it... I mean, it's not like behaving like that is healthy, right?
Thanks for answering me *hugs back*
Okay, I just noticed that I forgot something... If he knows you're only doing it to hurt yourself... Does that change anything?
I feel like it's making me the a**h***...
Last edited by lostxwolf : 09-09-2007 at 01:05 PM.
Reason: wanted to add something
Not afraid of crying, sorrow and foe.
Not afraid of falling down below.
To the night, recklessly we fly.
Like living dead, we'll never die
(Children of Bodom~Living dead beat)
well i still wouldnt say that it's abuse, but it does mean he's just using you to get what he wants, he shouldn't agree to have sex with you if he knows you don't really want it for the pleasure.
try to find a counsellor or someone you trust to talk to, and maybe just try to avoid situations where you are vunerable. you don't need to punish yourseld like this sweetie, in the long run it won't be doing you any good.
Pm me if you need to chat xoxoxox
Do not follow the common path.....go where there is no path and leave a trail.....