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Old 01-07-2010, 09:52 PM   #1
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was it rape?

As im having problems with drugs i go to NA meetings. i met a guy there who is 20years older than me and i asked him to give me a ride with motor bike and he took me to isolated place and he took off my clothes and his. i told him not to have sex and he first said ok,but then he got inside me even though i had told him i didn't want to. i asked him to get out of me ,but he insisted on being inside me until u know. is it considered rape? im having doubts about it, because i didn't say no when he wanted to take my clothes off.



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Old 01-07-2010, 10:04 PM   #2
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That was rape...

It doesn't matter that you didn't say no when the clothes came off. You said no when he tried to have sex with you, and as he continued to do so, that was rape. Non-consensual sex is rape.

Sorry to hear this has happened :( Please report this though as too many cases go unreported.

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Old 01-07-2010, 10:07 PM   #3
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^totaly agree



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Old 01-07-2010, 10:18 PM   #4
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It's rape.
So sorry to hear this happened to you hun.



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Old 01-07-2010, 10:26 PM   #5
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thank you for your kindness. he told me not to tell anyone.



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Old 01-07-2010, 10:30 PM   #6
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That doesn't mean you shouldn't. Seriously, he has done a very bad thing and now ought to face the consequences.

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Old 01-07-2010, 10:35 PM   #7
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the thing is that he is in the narcotics anonymous meetings with me. what if they kick us out?



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Old 01-07-2010, 10:46 PM   #8
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Sorry to be blunt, but i think you are trying to find reasons not to report it. I'm fairly certain if you got kicked out that would be grounds for discrimination. This man needs to answer for what he has done.

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Old 01-07-2010, 10:47 PM   #9
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yeah you are right...



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Old 01-07-2010, 10:50 PM   #10
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I am sorry to be blunt. I hope that he gets his just desserts and you manage to move on from this. Please don't, under any circumstances, blame yourself for this because IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! You didn't ask for this, you didn't deserve this.

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Old 01-07-2010, 11:27 PM   #11
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My heart ached as I read your story. I'm so sorry to hear that this sort of thing goes on.

When something similar happened me two years ago, I turned it into a story and posted it on Facebook - simply knowing that others were reading it, and seeing what the other person was really like was, in some ways, enough.

But you should do whatever you think will help you to recover and put your mind at ease.



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Old 01-07-2010, 11:32 PM   #12
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*hugs* that's definitely rape. he told you not to tell anyone cause he knows he could (and should) get in a ton of trouble. I think you should tell someone, maybe someone at your program. You don't deserve to be around someone like that and they can get him out of there even if you choose not to press charges (which you have every right to). do you have a counselor or any mental health person you could talk to about it as well?

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Old 02-07-2010, 09:55 AM   #13
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I agree with the others and I'm so so sorry that happened to you!
I'm thinking of you, be gentle with yourself
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Old 02-07-2010, 11:18 AM   #14
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oh honey- i'm so sorry this happened. it was rape, and it's inexcusable.



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