Well I have realized, over time, that trying to stop completely is worse for me, because when I think "I'm never ever going to do that again", I'm unable to stop, "never" is a scary word. When I tell myself "I'm not doing it now" it's much easier to keep pushing further and further and stretch more and more time without cutting at all. My longest is a year and a half!!!
Also, when I tried to stop "being like that" (cutter, depressed, anxious, suicidal, etc) it didn't help at all because it made me upset with myself and with who I am. It doesn't matter what you hate yourself for, as long as you do, it's bad. When I started thinking "oh well, that's me, I'm probably always going to be that, but I'm going to control it and to make the best of who I am", that really gave me a huge mood boost and sent me to much, much better places.
So when I give up and cut and end up getting no satisfaction, it sucks. It's like breaking a diet for a cake that doesn't even taste good. It only makes me cut more because I keep wanting "to give it just one more try". So I do think solving this could really help me!
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