hey, Im ok to feel a bit more human, sickness seems to have stopped, but still nauseated at times, and still really tired, but im 14+6 now so things should keep improving,
Sorry to hear about your infection coming back you really have had a rough time of it, have you just started using the cream again?
Charlie, its amazing how quickly you learn to cope with baby, and you will have the opportunity to go to parenting classes before the birth, alot of it is instinct tho its amazing how much you do know
and as for the bodily fluids you had better get used to that as they always want some thing from you!! i see the midwife in the afternoon so i have had a few lunch dates with a pot of wee in my hand bag!!!!
i had never been near a baby before i had mine, so holding one and being responsible for one was sooo scary but it isnt that difficult when you have learnt how to look after them
i was thinking the same about cloth nappies.
but i dont like the idea of having to scrape off the, uhhh, excrement, before putting it in to wash. bleugh
did your midwife not give you info about classes and stuff?
i had my booking in at 5 weeks, and she gave me leaflets on classes and breastfeeding and asked me where i wanted to deliver etc
i was like, WOAH!
they sometimes hold classes at gp practices, so maybe ask there?
x
I'm fine! Totally fine. I don't know why it's coming out all loud and squeaky, 'cause really, I'm fine!
you get liners for the nappies so that you can just put the poop in a bin.
I had the where will you deliver chat at 6 weeks. The midwife said that they discuss classes after the second scan because people tend to only go to them at 20 odd weeks.
Or something.. i dunno.. i had filled out so much paperwork and had so much blood drained out of me that i forgot to pay attention to everything.
I had been around loads of babies...completely different when it's your own! They don't do antenatal classes here except for paid ones that were fully booked, I got everything I needed to know from watchig sky and researching on the net ..
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
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I use disposable nappies, simply because I do not have the time to wash the reusable ones...I can't even keep on top of my own washing let alone adding nappies to the pile.
My midwife asked me if I wanted to go antenatal classes but I simply did not have the time to go as I was at uni through the day, had work most evenings and work at weekends too. I had been around babies most of my life (my youngest sister is 10 years younger than me) and I started babysitting from 14/15. Safe to say that its completely different when its you're own. But a hell of a lot more special xxx
they arranged our anti natal classes at my booking in appt, they were run by the hospital and were free, but you can go to ntc classes too but they charge.
we use disposable nappies, very easy and convenient and are always on offer somewhere, so we have never paid full price, none of my friends who planned to use cloth nappies do now they either mix (only use them at home) or are back to disposables, the cloth ones seemed to leak alot!
I use cloth nappies, but I only started with both of them once they were on solids and their poo wasn't so runny! I used liners with Oliver but I don't with Poppy, I just tip the poo straight into the toilet.
It's saved me a fortune, especially now the same nappies are being used second time round. I have about 20 nappies, which were bought second hand so didn't cost much to start with, and I do a wash maybe twice a week.. it's pretty simple. I do use a disposable overnight though, I find the cloth do leak if she's in them for that long, and can be a bit too bulky for her to lie comfortably in.
We went to an antinatal class and it was good but only lasted 3 hours. That was an NHS one. There was a separate breast feeding one too. Was still useful.
We use disposable nappies but we are lucky our parents keep buying them so we have a load even though we've not bought any yet.
I've started using the cream again so hopefully things will clear up soon!
i went to the local nsh antenatl classes run in my doctors surgery and they were rubbish! all it went on about was labour and because mine was induced due to pre-eclamsia nothing they said even mattered to me because i didnt have to time conmtractions and i was pretty much told to have an epidural to lower my blood pressure.
What i really wanted to know was how to look after a baby, like how to feed them (they didn have breastfeeding but i had to miss it to see my obsytericitian at the hospital) and they said they wouldnt disscuss bottle feeding as they didnt want to encourage it. i also wanted to know how to change a nappy, what to do when they cried (like the different reasons for the cries and how to sooth my baby) but nothing after the birth was discussed.
The good thing was because i am under the care of a mental health team and i was assessed by social services (as a matter of course) they put me under a team called "the early intervetion prevention team" which deal with vulnerable familes with children under 5 so i had family support worker who worked with my specialist midwife (who also dealt with vulnerable women who had mental health problems, were being abused or were disabled and stuff like that) and they mananged to arrange me to stay in hospital for a few days afterwards so i could be taught how to change nappies and get some help and support in those first few days. but in the end i learnt everything i had to in 1 day (apart from breastfeeding which never happened because my little an had jauncie and wouldnt latch on) and thats all you really need to know.
So far i have found looking after a baby pretty simple, if they cry you check if they need changing, if not try feed them, if not cuddle them or giggle them up and down and rock them (not in a shaking and abusive kind of way obviously) my son also loves motion so walking around or taking him for a walk in the pram settles him but he is pretty good baby so hardly cried at all. (i know it will get harder but its not that hard at the moment its just time consuming and if im alone boring and isolating)
so there really is nothing to worry about, also if your baby cries and nothing seems to work to calm them down it isnt your fault (according to health visitor) they have a fussy time of day and although it can get very tidious and annoying i can manage with it fine because im good at blocking out noise and tuning it out whereas my otherhalf gets easily annoyed so its harder for him (although he manages fine)
I am not pregnant... or even looking after my own child. But for various reasons, I'm taking virtually all the responsibility for caring for my 8 week old sister 24/7. Night feed, nappy change, taking her out with me, organizing classes at the centre, the lot. She's got a cold atm, bless her, & she's snotting all over me :3
Sunshine, at least you had the option to bottle feed your son in hospital because he wouldn't latch on...Faith wouldn't latch on and I had to hand express and she hardly had anything while we were in hospital and ended up jaundice. I was worried because she hadn't had much and asked the midwives if it would be best to give her formula and they said no, just to keep trying with the breast feeding. Midwife came to see us at home the day after we left hospital and said that she was jaundice and had to wake her every 4 hours for a feed. It took Faith 4 days to work out how to latch on and even then I only managed to breast feed until she was 2 and a half months because she was too hungry for me to keep feeding her xx
How are you managing looking after your sister? Are you getting help?
Little man almost rolled over today. He was naked on the floor and just rolled over. Only thing that stopped him was his bottom arm. He's been getting close for about a week but that was closest yet! Reckon he'll be over in next week or two then I'll have to have eyes in the back on my head!
wow i had my little man was born 2 weeks after you and he is nowhere near rolling over! he does have strong neck mussles though and when we lie him against us he will have his head up looking around all the time and he has started cooing which is soo cute
well i was in hospital for a week afterwards because he had an infection and i wasnt givng him formula in hopsital i was expressing with a pump and bottle feeding him that but i dont think they would have let him starve for an entire week untill i got out! but it sounds horrible! i remember my second night on the ward i still hadnt got him to latch on and he hadnt feed all day so i tried again at night and i couldnt do it so i rang the buzzer because i was getting upset and worried and the nurse wouldnt help me hand express and i couldnt do it myself and then said to just wait untill he got hungry and because he had jauncie he obviously wasnt waking up to feed so i started crying and she just ignored me and left me! it was a horrible night hospitals arnt nice places!
I was only in for one night and I was quite worried when they said to me that they could go up to every 5 hours without a feed when I always thought it was 3/4 hours. Faith hadn't fed properly in a good 10 hours by the time we got home. I hated hand expressing because nothing came out very well.
He might not actually roll all the way over but just gets about 3/4 of way there. He lifts both his legs then uses then to tip himself on his side then lifts his head. It's cute! He's 6 weeks but holds his own head up and stuff now. I guess he's just got a big of muscle strength. Rolling over isn't a developmental milestone or anything as far as I can tell they just learn it by chance.
My little one coo's too. It's the cutest isn't it?
I'm getting some support & advice with looking after her. The hardest thing is all the "new mummy" worries, like if they cough the tiniest bit, you think it's the end of the world! I'm starting to relax a bit now though. I'm booked onto baby resusciation classes as well so I'll meet other mummies there.
Lil one is eating quite well, although it takes her a while to latch on (bottle-fed). She sits there with her little pot belly bulging out, burping away. Such a lady!
Mrs Sam - the cooing is adorable. I wonder what they're trying to say..!
hospitals arnt nice places!