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Injecting yourself into other people's conversations
Does anyone feel uncomfortable interjecting themselves into other people's conversations? Do you think it can also be seen as rude to do so? Despite people telling me it's a good idea to get to know others and even during random moments of bravery where I decide to take the initiative to talk to someone, I refuse to inject myself into a conversation. I feel like it could be seen as rude to others even if you're just trying to get to know others.
And I've seen it happen to other people I know where I'll see them interject themselves into a conversation and the other group members will give them annoyed or confused glances at them. It's not like they were already a part of the conversation. It's more like there will be a group conversation taking place and they will overhear them and just start saying stuff to them. Would you see this as being kind of rude or off putting? I feel like it could be seen as that way.
This is why I can't do this myself. There was only one case many many years ago where I approached a group of people who weren't really even talking and they got annoyed. I couldn't even dare do that to a group of people who are in a full conversation with each other. In cases where some of my friends have done that, only to complain later that they feel like no one wants to talk to them, I can sometimes see why some of them struggle with making friends or at least feeling like they don't belong in a group. A friend may interject themselves into a conversation, they get weird looks in response and then my friend will complain that they feel excluded and rejected. Usually I can relate, but in this scenario, I can understand why they feel rejected. It's because they interjected themselves at the wrong time.
I'm more of the kind of person that will stand off to the side, while still looking approachable, and wait for someone to come and talk to me first. Or in some rare cases, I'll approach someone who seems to be alone as well. I'm a little more okay with that even though that still makes me nervous as well since there's still a possibility of rejection. Would you find it off putting if you noticed someone was just interjecting themselves into a conversation they were not a part of? It's one thing if you're invited into a group conversation, but interjecting yourself to the point where you're possibly annoying others is another. Just wondered what you guys thought.
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