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Old 17-07-2016, 01:00 AM   #1
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Some advice please

I feel like i just don't know what to do. My family is so negative. I am constantly trying to get away. I live with my mother and we haven't spoken in years. All she cares about is money. I'm currently in college and to be honest I feel like I don't want to go back for the Fall semester. I rather just run away somewhere and start new.

I have a boyfriend and he is the only reason why I am still here. I don't really know if i should just take some time off school and find a place to live where i am at or just leave.

I feel stuck, every year it just gets worst. I end up depressed, drinking and not wanting to get out of bed.

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Old 17-07-2016, 11:21 AM   #2
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Sorry you're finding living at home to be so negative. Is there no option to move out whilst you're at college?

Presuming you have a summer holiday at the moment, what about getting away for a bit to give yourself a bit of a break so that at least you get a bit of a change of scenery before going back for the fall semester.

I would think very carefully before dropping out of college- think about why you went in the first place and if those reasons are still there.



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Old 20-07-2016, 04:49 AM   #3
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Thank you for your reply.
I'm trying really hard to be a "warrior" like my friends say. I go on little trips on my day off and visit other states. I find it so dreadful to come home. My mother hates me and I'm sure it's because im not the daughter of the man who raised me. My brothers feel the same way. I'm not liked in my family and they only speak to me when they need something.

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Old 20-07-2016, 04:05 PM   #4
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can you move somewhere else? aren't there usually places to live near the campus? you deserve happiness, and you should really get away from people who make you feel bad! have you talked to your mother about this? have you asked them why they behave like that? maybe they think you want to be left alone?

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Old 21-07-2016, 03:44 PM   #5
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If that is why your mum is distant with you then that's really unfair as you didn't choose who she created a child with! I'd agree with the above suggestion of talking to her if possible and see if it might be possible to repair the relationship.

What about looking into options for houseshares in the area?



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Old 03-08-2016, 02:44 AM   #6
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Thank you for the suggestions

I have tried to fix our relationship, I tried talking to her. She said she doesn't care if she stops talking to one of her kids because she has seven others.

Living on campus is extremely expensive.

I am looking for places to move to. Thank you so much. I really needed some suggestions.

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I appreciate you guys taking the time to reply. It feels better having someone to at least hear me out. Some times even if you try ignoring what's happening and do a lot of activities, it still hurts. I do a lot and it has come to the point that I'm only home to shower and sleep. But when there's nothing to do and your mother doesn't call you by your name and tells your siblings not to address you by your name... it becomes too much.

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Old 06-08-2016, 07:56 PM   #8
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Ugh, that's sounds so horrible of her, I'm sorry you're being subjected to such cruel treatment. I hope that you're able to find somewhere to move to soon!



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Thank you. May God hear you!!!

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Old 09-08-2016, 08:01 PM   #10
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Would it be possible to live with someone else - a friend, or relatives? Living somewhere you don't feel comfortable with can be horrible.



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Old 10-08-2016, 09:57 PM   #11
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It's hard because this collage makes you "stuck". But I don't think a drop out will be a good choice. Meanwhile you're studying you could search for work and apartments. If you have a "goal" to work for I hope it will feel a bit easier to live through it. I'm not sure if you take working meanwhile you're studying. Moving out after collage would be a choice for me if I was there, try to find/get a job and save up money.

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Old 28-06-2020, 06:13 PM   #12
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Hi everyone,
I just wanted to give you guys and update because all of your suggestions and response helped me so much. I took everyone’s suggestions and eventually was able to move out in 2016. I also did not drop out of college. I managed to graduate in 2018 (I tried going to counseling but it was discouraging because I was told I had to many problems and in many cases therapists would tell me they couldnt help...i eventually found a safe space to cry and that really helped as well). Thank you for helping me during a very stressful, dark and hurtting time.

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Old 03-07-2020, 03:59 PM   #13
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Oh wow, what an amazing post to read. I'm so pleased that you were able to stay strong and move out, stick with college and achieve so much, despite all of the challenges you have faced. You've done wonderfully for yourself so well done :) Wishing you all the very best for what I'm sure is a bright future ahead!



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