I was ab*sed by my cousin when I was a child which I blocked out until memories came back to me when I was 17. I think I was 8 when I was SA'd.
Then when I was 24 there was an incident with a man. Again, my memory has blocked this out largely.
But the effects of thesse incidents has been huge in terms of my mental health and ability to form any sort of relationships.
I digress.
My point is... I think I've learnt to just block out what I've experienced.
I don't really acknoweledge that it has happened because I don't talk about it really.
In the summer I was in a relationship (my first relationship in ten years) and I did talk about it a bit and I had a sexual relationship with this man. Not a very successful one
But I was triggered VERY badly. It all came flooding back to me and I was s/harming, drinking to excess, compulsive eating, suicidal - it was like a car crash of emotions.
Anyhow... I got out of the relationship.
I have now blocked it out again.
I was going to try internet dating, but I can't let a man close to me - physically or emotionally
so I have just shut the door on that room and walked down the corridor alone (if you get my meaning)
I'm not sure if this is healthy??
But I'm scared of talking to my cpn about the SA and r*pe because I know she'll say 'haven't you already dealt with this in therapy?'
and she'd be right
I should have done
But I didn't because I couldn't talk about it
I wasn't ready to deal with it
I'm sorry for this waffling, irrelevant post
I guess I'm just confused
Don't know if blocking it out is right.. healthy... a way of coping.. showing that I am getting better
If anyone has any advice or insight I'd appreciate it.
thanks
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