I’m seeing a GP at 11.45 today. This GP is not famous for being understanding about mental health but I need something, I’m desperate. Then I’m planning on going to see my partner.
I did, he was helpful. I have sleeping tablets to help keep me asleep when I wake up at night for a week and told me you didn’t need to be referred to bereavement counselling, you organised it yourself through cruse. He also reminded me that the samaritans and breathing space were helplines I could phone if I felt the need, but I do that anyway.
Yes, I phoned them pretty much straight after my GP appointment. They took my details, told me they’d send me out a pack with a local number on it and they’d go from there after a short waiting period.
I got the pack through yesterday. I thought they were gonna offer me bereavement counselling, but they only offer one support session in the first few months of grief - Im not eligible for counselling until after 4-6 months. Well thats a fat lot of use, not!
That doesn't sound too supportive. Remember you can always phone helplines etc to talk through your grief even if they're not specialist grief counselling helplines. Sometimes all we need is a listening and compassionate human ear. You can always post here when you need to.
I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
I’m sorry your dad is being difficult. Is there anyone who can talk to him on your behalf?
You don’t have to live with him forever. It’s perfectly acceptable to choose where you live.
Most of my family agree with him and feel its my responsibility to live with him and look after him now mum can’t.
I feel really shit today. I had an awful nights sleep because I kept dreaming about my mum, waking up and then having another dream about her on a cycle. Even though I don’t think it’ll do any good, I contacted Cruse yesterday but for an early intervention appointment its still a 6 week wait.
I think it’s unfair of your family. He has to take some responsibility, as harsh as that sounds. Yes, you are all hurting and deserve to be taken care of, but it shouldn’t fall solely on you.
I know what you mean about the dreams. I’m sorry. Well done on contacting cruise. Is there someone you can contact in the meantime, like samaritans?
My mum did so much for my dad that it felt like he wouldn’t cope without her. He learned. He was soon cooking and taking care of the house because he had to. He even began to enjoy cooking and is now quite house proud. It was a big jump for him, but he did it, and hopefully so will your dad.
I’m supposed to be registering with a GP down here, but I’ve been busy the last few days. The last time I mentioned it to my other half she told me to ask her sister to drive me up because it was a long walk, but I haven’t had a chance to ask her yet. My partner and I also had a disagreement (don’t want to go into it too much here) and we haven’t sorted things out yet, so the atmosphere is very tense.
I can’t phone a helpline and the Samaritans don’t reply to my emails or texts anymore. I’m assuming I’ve used the service too much, so I’ve stopped using them.
It does a little bit, it helps to get things off my chest. It just seems like everything is a big waiting game atm - waiting for counselling, waiting for a job, waiting for college to start in September next year. Its making things harder, but then if they happened before theres no reason why it wouldn’t happen again.
