I am currently a bit creeped out - some guy at the bus stop earlier, old enough to be my grandfather, basically started hitting on me, and then actually reached out and put his hand on my hip. Creepy guys hitting on me happens way too often, especially at bus stops. I honestly don't understand why - I listen to my ipod all the time, with giant headphones, and only speak to people if spoken to first, and even then I give one word answers and try to stop talking as soon as possible. This is the first time one of them has actually touched me though.
Jo, a piece of advice for you! Don't believe everything you read about BPD! A lot of it is scare mongering but some of it is sadly true. Its about sifting the crap from the truth.
trechu, I would have called the cops on him. Leering at people is one thing but touching is another. Can you make bus route safer for yourself such as only going alone in daylight hours or buddying up after dark. You could carry a wee torch or attack alarm and have it round your neck where it can be seen and therefore hopefully act as a deterrent. x
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Therapy wasn't bad this week. So maybe things will work out. Time will tell I guess. But she did say we would start working through the past abuse and I'm not looking forward to this. I keep trying to dig a deeper hole for it so it stays buried and continue to fail to understand why that $hit doesn't stay buried. F!
Anyway, moving on. Rachel, I do hope you are okay, dear! That's awful that someone felt they had the right to touch you. That's SO not okay!
Mark and Liddy, how are you guys? I don't see much chatter from you lately other than checking in. I do hope you guys are doing well!
Jo, I have the same questions you do. I don't necessarily pay attention to the media or celebs, but I have been told by one of my therapists and my psych that I have no shot at 'normal'. I DO however, have a shot at something closer to 'normal' than where I am now. If you are wondering why I keep putting normal in quotes, its because I don't believe that there is any such thing as normal. Everyone has issues of some sort and the term normal is not the same for anyone. So I hope I haven't offended anyone with my use of the word. I assure everyone, no harm was meant by it. Basically what my therapist that I see in person said was that there is a continuum,
and yes, she actually drew it out like that. People with our personality disorder fall somewhere in between and can only achieve something closer to the 'normal' end of things with therapy and medication. This is part of the reason why I have considered not seeing her. But my psych has also said that things that set me off will always set me off. That I have to learn to deal with it and that my moodiness will always be there, but will dissipate as I age and will become more manageable with therapy and medication. So that being said, Jo, please don't take stock in the crap you read nor what my medical professionals are saying because I'm in a similar if not same boat and am terrified at what I've been told and read as well. But like Liddy said, we have to sift the crap. I like to think they are just reciting crap they've read and been taught which is likely the same crap we have read about BPD. I'm so sorry that you're going through a tough time and I didn't mean to end up on a rant. I hope it is helpful to know that you have friends here that are either going through the same thing or have in the past. *hugs*
And again, I hope I've not stepped on any toes with my post. Just trying to show my support.
hi everyone, sorry i cant really offer support everything's a bit messed up. Im taking a week off work as unfortunately being ill just got too much for that place and it was for the best, but going back is going to be hard.
I just wonder how other people feel about having the bpd label, i have started trying to explain it to work but its difficult to put into words what it is and how it affects me.
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ehh, sorry havent been on here in foreverrr. i got a new job and lost all my frineds again, so ive been trying to just drowned it all out with extreme amounts of xbox. still havent gone to the doc about my issues yet :(
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I am uncertain today. Missed my last two appointments, didn't feel able to leave the house, so I've secluded myself with a few books and am working through some rather unpleasant thoughts.
How're tricks with all of you?
Sending hugs and sympathy to all, I've had a read over the last few days and can only observe that it seems to me there are a lot of very strong people on here trying their very best to deal with the cards life has dealt, so well done all, I'm rather impressed.
Methinks some tea and toast might help me at the moment. Anyone else? I'll put the kettle on :P
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Hi all...apologies this has taken a week to say but thank you to those who replied with welcomes and advice last week for me. I appreciate it and it's always good to hear others experiences too. As my CPN said to me yesterday we all feel alone and like we are the only person with these feelings but we're not in that there are so many other people who feel similar or exaCTLY THE SAME ( IF THAT MAKES SENSE ). Oops...knocked caps lock by mistake...i'm not shouting honest !! Anyhow...I'm a little less confused and walk away from my appointments feeling like someone is actually taking notice and doing something...finally. A lot of people have tried to help in the past but without knowing I possibly have BPD couldn't possibly know what I needed. Awaiting diagnosis hopefully soon so I know one way or the other. I hope you are all doing ok and I'd also be in for the tea and toast if I wasn't going to have a Chinese soon !! May your evenings be free of intrusive thoughts and emotions. Sending Positive thoughts to you all
I am trying to think positively but today is hard. Thanks for asking though. About to have a Sunday roast though so it's all good !!!!! How about you??? And everyone?? I hope you are all having a nice relaxing Sunday...enjoy it before its over