I'm so pleased you were able to start talking! When do you see her again & do you think you will be able to continue with this?
In a way, it's also good that you've been able to learn from your brothers lessons? I also don't think cutting off from your emotions when talking about something difficult is unusual. I suppose with time, it might be something you become more comfortable with and maybe include your emotios too; but if not just talking about experiences and then going back to how you feel about certain things is also possible?
I can completely relate to finding what other people are thinking being distracting. That's why i think in the past, asking her not to react was helpful but i also very rarely make eye contact with her despite trusting her. How did she react when you said you said you felt uncomfortable?
I often also find that i find myself thinking 100% more about things after leaving appointments like that so sometimes write things down about how i felt and my thoughts to discuss next time. It's great this site has enabled you to asess properly how you are feeling and how to deal with it!
I hope you begin to make steps to accepting what happend and dealing with the emotions. Just remember, even though it might seem difficult at first, it does help eventually!
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