I don't have any visible SI scars (long story), but I do have a pretty significant facial scar from a car accident about fourteen years ago. It left me with nerve damage and although it's faded, you would think that it would be pretty obvious - after all, the first thing people focus on when they meet your face.
But it's not. I have told the story about the accident, and had people not even realise that I have this scar. They are actually surprised when they finally see it and can't believe they've missed it. (I'd post a picture, but I'm not sure how, lol.)
My point is, yes, scars are for life. They're a part of life. SI or not, everyone has scars somewhere; it's a hazard of inhabiting this particular type of body. But people care about things like this a lot less than we might think, and they are also a lot less observant and a lot more accepting than we might think. So don't sweat it too much. The only person you have to worry about is you and how it feels to inhabit your particular skin and how you feel about your scars.
That was a lot less eloquent and supportive than I'd hoped it'd be, but I hope you get the gist of what I was trying to say. <3
-J.D.
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