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crazykat · 06-11-2011, 06:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Bell-Fairy

Sooo... I'm new, and I don't really know what to do. >///< I guess I'll start by introducing myself.
I'm Isabella (but call me Belle or Bella; Isabella's too formal :P). I'm 16 and in the 10th grade. I've been self-harming since the 7th grade. Although I'm not really aiming to stop cold-turkey, I do realize that I need help, and support. Since very few people know I cut, and I don't like to talk to people about it (same for my depression,and feelings in general), I don't really have anyone to guide me. I realize this is mostly due to the fact that I don't communicate my feelings, but I feel really uncomfortable talking about them, and whenever I do, I feel guilty for making the person frustrated/worried. This is the main reason I've joined this community. I feel that it will be easier to express what I'm feeling to people who not only can relate to what I'm going through, but also whom are unbiased. So, that's the basics about me. I hope I can help people out, and perhaps get help too. ^ ^

Hi Bella,
It's nice to meet you, I hope you find the support you need here. Also you might find The Guide To RYL helpful. All the best
Kat xxx

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Originally Posted by JAOO

This is hard, don't know what to say. Ok, I'm Julie and I'm very new here. I have been self-harming for just over a month now. It would be nice to meet like-minded people and not those who sit in judgement of me when I talk about what I do. if anyone wants to get to know me, please feel free to message me or however it works on here.

Hi Julie,
It's nice to meet you, I hope you find it helpful here. Take care
Kat xxx

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Originally Posted by ninais

Hello....I'm a 45 year old woman who started cutting at the age of 21 after an abusive childhood during which time I had to "take care of" my abusers. I managed to raise a daughter (she's nearly 17) without cutting myself more than once...but I still "white knuckle" it frequently. I recently discovered that my daughter cut herself a few times last year and that worries me as well, but it seems she didn't develop the "addiction." I bought a book yesterday by Steven Levenkron called Cutting and I'm finding it a bit triggering. Of course I was in a mild "white knuckle" phase when I purchased it. I had hoped it could make sense of things, help me recover after all these years. I'm an artist, teacher, writer, and expressive arts therapist, believe it or not. I'm a also published poet...I tell people I "invented" Emo. ;) What parts of this forum might be most helpful to me? (and nice to meet you all) Also...how do I post my mood like you all seem to be able to do? (edit: nevermind, I figured out how to do that much.)

Hello,
It's nice to meet you. You might find the veterans corner helpful and you might also want to post in the creative corner. Also here is The Guide To RYL that you might find helpful. Take care
Kat xxx

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Originally Posted by f***ing_perfect_to_me

Hey everyone just joined RYL today, first step for me to the long road of recovery but I'm hoping I'll get there :(

Hoping to meet some like minded people who know how I'm feeling for a change :(

xxx

Hi
Welcome to RYL
I hope you find it helpful here
If you need anything PM me
Take care
Kat xxx

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Originally Posted by Bookgirl

hi

i'm new

and a little confused

Hi
What are you confused about? Here is The Guide To RYL, that may help answer some of your questions. Take care
Kat xxx

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Originally Posted by Living-Dead-Girl

Hello. I am not exactly sure what to do with this website.
I'm not exactly what help I am needing..

I've been depressed for 9 years now. And I never cared to get better because I also truly hate myself. A few years back I entered into a serious relationship for the first time and was in it for nearly one year.. Before I came to find out I had been being cheated on for 6 months, and I was being left for the other person. I tried committing suicide but I was forcefully stopped just before.. But It broke me as a person and made it hard for me to trust anyone with anything. I never intended to have another relationship again, for fear of anything happening again.
In the 2011 year I fell in love again, I couldn't help myself.
I met the most amazing person I have ever met, we became friends and lovers. But my past is still haunting me. I find myself having paranoid thoughts and it causes arguments with her, sometimes.. I know for a fact she would never do anything to hurt me but my innate thoughts just.. They just don't allow me to believe it some times.

The pain I was causing her was too much and she broke up with me last night. After the end of the night she said she made a mistake and wishes we could get back together. But I told her I won't allow her to hurt herself anymore, so I will not return to her until I can get help.

So here is, I guess the question I am asking... What should I do? I have no clue as to where to start at all with this.
I'm fairly certain I have down what is causing the problems.. My depression and hatred for myself brings me to believe she is too good for me. So that, along with my previous trust issues bring about paranoid thoughts.
And in turn I accidentally, and wrongfully, take them out on her..

What should I do to get help..? I can't afford a therapist.. I'm not sure I even want to go to one. I've had bad experiences there.. I got hurt more than helped. =[

Sorry for so much text, thank you for reading..

Hi
It's sounds like things have been quite painful in your past. Other than going to a therapist I really don't know what else to suggest but if you post in General Support and Advice I am sure someone would be able to give you some advice on what to do. Take care
Kat xxx

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Originally Posted by Equanimity

I'm. Completely lost whats a buddy list why are some names different colors and I can't acsess the chat and well I'm confuse O__o

Hi
Welcome to RYL, you might want to have a read of The Guide To RYL, as it may help answer some of your questions including that about the buddy list. The people with different coloured names are the mods and the head. The Chat Mods are green, the forum mods red and Harley the head is black. If you still can't access chat, you can message them here. Hope this helps. Take care
Kat xxx

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Originally Posted by Anna M.

Hey im new here too and soo lost! Is this the right spot to post this? If not super sorry. Right now im just trying to find someone to be my friend that i can talk to. Again if this is the wrong spot to put this sorry!

Hi
Welcome to RYL, you might find it helpful to read The Guide To RYL to help answer of your questions. As for meeting new people posting around the forums and/or using chat is a great way to meet new people. Take care
Kat xxx

06-11-2011, 06:45 AM	#76
crazykat Fight for another day Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Australia	Quote: Originally Posted by Bell-Fairy Sooo... I'm new, and I don't really know what to do. >///< I guess I'll start by introducing myself. I'm Isabella (but call me Belle or Bella; Isabella's too formal :P). I'm 16 and in the 10th grade. I've been self-harming since the 7th grade. Although I'm not really aiming to stop cold-turkey, I do realize that I need help, and support. Since very few people know I cut, and I don't like to talk to people about it (same for my depression,and feelings in general), I don't really have anyone to guide me. I realize this is mostly due to the fact that I don't communicate my feelings, but I feel really uncomfortable talking about them, and whenever I do, I feel guilty for making the person frustrated/worried. This is the main reason I've joined this community. I feel that it will be easier to express what I'm feeling to people who not only can relate to what I'm going through, but also whom are unbiased. So, that's the basics about me. I hope I can help people out, and perhaps get help too. ^ ^ Hi Bella, It's nice to meet you, I hope you find the support you need here. Also you might find The Guide To RYL helpful. All the best Kat xxx Quote: Originally Posted by JAOO This is hard, don't know what to say. Ok, I'm Julie and I'm very new here. I have been self-harming for just over a month now. It would be nice to meet like-minded people and not those who sit in judgement of me when I talk about what I do. if anyone wants to get to know me, please feel free to message me or however it works on here. Hi Julie, It's nice to meet you, I hope you find it helpful here. Take care Kat xxx Quote: Originally Posted by ninais Hello....I'm a 45 year old woman who started cutting at the age of 21 after an abusive childhood during which time I had to "take care of" my abusers. I managed to raise a daughter (she's nearly 17) without cutting myself more than once...but I still "white knuckle" it frequently. I recently discovered that my daughter cut herself a few times last year and that worries me as well, but it seems she didn't develop the "addiction." I bought a book yesterday by Steven Levenkron called Cutting and I'm finding it a bit triggering. Of course I was in a mild "white knuckle" phase when I purchased it. I had hoped it could make sense of things, help me recover after all these years. I'm an artist, teacher, writer, and expressive arts therapist, believe it or not. I'm a also published poet...I tell people I "invented" Emo. ;) What parts of this forum might be most helpful to me? (and nice to meet you all) Also...how do I post my mood like you all seem to be able to do? (edit: nevermind, I figured out how to do that much.) Hello, It's nice to meet you. You might find the veterans corner helpful and you might also want to post in the creative corner. Also here is The Guide To RYL that you might find helpful. Take care Kat xxx Quote: Originally Posted by fing_perfect_to_me* Hey everyone just joined RYL today, first step for me to the long road of recovery but I'm hoping I'll get there :( Hoping to meet some like minded people who know how I'm feeling for a change :( xxx Hi Welcome to RYL I hope you find it helpful here If you need anything PM me Take care Kat xxx Quote: Originally Posted by Bookgirl hi i'm new and a little confused Hi What are you confused about? Here is The Guide To RYL, that may help answer some of your questions. Take care Kat xxx Quote: Originally Posted by Living-Dead-Girl Hello. I am not exactly sure what to do with this website. I'm not exactly what help I am needing.. I've been depressed for 9 years now. And I never cared to get better because I also truly hate myself. A few years back I entered into a serious relationship for the first time and was in it for nearly one year.. Before I came to find out I had been being cheated on for 6 months, and I was being left for the other person. I tried committing suicide but I was forcefully stopped just before.. But It broke me as a person and made it hard for me to trust anyone with anything. I never intended to have another relationship again, for fear of anything happening again. In the 2011 year I fell in love again, I couldn't help myself. I met the most amazing person I have ever met, we became friends and lovers. But my past is still haunting me. I find myself having paranoid thoughts and it causes arguments with her, sometimes.. I know for a fact she would never do anything to hurt me but my innate thoughts just.. They just don't allow me to believe it some times. The pain I was causing her was too much and she broke up with me last night. After the end of the night she said she made a mistake and wishes we could get back together. But I told her I won't allow her to hurt herself anymore, so I will not return to her until I can get help. So here is, I guess the question I am asking... What should I do? I have no clue as to where to start at all with this. I'm fairly certain I have down what is causing the problems.. My depression and hatred for myself brings me to believe she is too good for me. So that, along with my previous trust issues bring about paranoid thoughts. And in turn I accidentally, and wrongfully, take them out on her.. What should I do to get help..? I can't afford a therapist.. I'm not sure I even want to go to one. I've had bad experiences there.. I got hurt more than helped. =[ Sorry for so much text, thank you for reading.. Hi It's sounds like things have been quite painful in your past. Other than going to a therapist I really don't know what else to suggest but if you post in General Support and Advice I am sure someone would be able to give you some advice on what to do. Take care Kat xxx Quote: Originally Posted by Equanimity I'm. Completely lost whats a buddy list why are some names different colors and I can't acsess the chat and well I'm confuse O__o Hi Welcome to RYL, you might want to have a read of The Guide To RYL, as it may help answer some of your questions including that about the buddy list. The people with different coloured names are the mods and the head. The Chat Mods are green, the forum mods red and Harley the head is black. If you still can't access chat, you can message them here. Hope this helps. Take care Kat xxx Quote: Originally Posted by Anna M. Hey im new here too and soo lost! Is this the right spot to post this? If not super sorry. Right now im just trying to find someone to be my friend that i can talk to. Again if this is the wrong spot to put this sorry! Hi Welcome to RYL, you might find it helpful to read The Guide To RYL to help answer of your questions. As for meeting new people posting around the forums and/or using chat is a great way to meet new people. Take care Kat xxx
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