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Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 31-01-2012, 10:52 AM
Replies: 26
Views: 810
Posted By inconditus
I've been working in care for the past six months...

I've been working in care for the past six months or so full time and before that a couple of shifts a week for about a year. Right now I'm also working with service users with learning disabilities...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 17-01-2012, 10:54 AM
Replies: 534
Views: 23,341
Posted By inconditus
I think the powerlessness of being raped is one...

I think the powerlessness of being raped is one of the hardest parts; who doesn't like to know that they are in control of their own life and their own destiny? Knowing that, in that moment, all of...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 17-01-2012, 10:41 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 411
Posted By inconditus
I'm not abreast with your circumstances so I...

I'm not abreast with your circumstances so I apologise in advance if I ask any questions that you have answered in your previous posts.

The thought of confronting your rapist in court tomorrow must...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 17-01-2012, 10:17 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 772
Posted By inconditus
There's a great article here...

There's a great article here (http://www.aphroditewounded.org/definitions.html), which details the definitions of rape and sexual abuse. If you scroll down, there is a list of circumstances under...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 15-01-2012, 01:11 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 1,078
Posted By inconditus
There is scientific discussion on whether a link...

There is scientific discussion on whether a link between aggressiveness and an increased propensity towards violence and the genetic code exists. Research throughout the ages has demonstrated both...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 15-01-2012, 12:54 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 4,505
Posted By inconditus
I've had similar experiences with my partner; I...

I've had similar experiences with my partner; I make attempts to open up to him about my past but he dismisses it and says "that's the past; you need to move on" and then weeks later he's complaining...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 15-01-2012, 12:01 PM
Replies: 1
Views: 319
Posted By inconditus
It must be really hard to have people constantly...

It must be really hard to have people constantly reminding you about something you want to put in the past. People can be very judgmental and there's a lot of stigma attached to heroin use, so it...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 10-01-2012, 10:52 AM
Replies: 11
Views: 640
Posted By inconditus
I'm really glad you were honest with your doctor...

I'm really glad you were honest with your doctor regarding how the injuries had occurred and I hope this opens up some opportunities for treatment for you. I think it's perfectly reasonable that an...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 10-01-2012, 09:59 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 545
Posted By inconditus
I'm sorry there wasn't anyone around when you...

I'm sorry there wasn't anyone around when you needed to talk but if you're still awake and reading this then I'm going to be here for a little while if you would like to talk. I'm not in the US so...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 09-01-2012, 01:52 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 412
Posted By inconditus
If you didn't feel able to speak to the doctor...

If you didn't feel able to speak to the doctor comfortably about the things that are really affecting you then it's no surprise that he hasn't been able to make the diagnosis you believe to be...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 05-01-2012, 10:24 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 412
Posted By inconditus
First of all, you need never apologise for...

First of all, you need never apologise for posting here. If you are in need of support, advice or simply some comforting words, you are always welcome to turn to RYL; that is what it exists for. Your...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 22-12-2011, 07:28 PM
Replies: 84
Views: 2,184
Posted By inconditus
Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear that...

Congratulations!

I'm so happy to hear that things seems to be going so well for you right now. Please keep us updated on how you're getting on. I'm sure you will find working with people with...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 18-12-2011, 09:28 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 527
Posted By inconditus
It's unfortunate that you don't have the...

It's unfortunate that you don't have the treatment options you need right now, but that doesn't make this situation hopeless. You say that it is probably "inevitable" that you will relapse into self...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 18-12-2011, 05:08 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 346
Posted By inconditus
I'm confident that, as you are now, you do make a...

I'm confident that, as you are now, you do make a difference to the world; I think everyone matters, and everyone has a significant effect on those around them. But, if you don't feel as if you're...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 18-12-2011, 04:13 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 553
Posted By inconditus
Of course it's true that therapists are doing so...

Of course it's true that therapists are doing so to make a living, but so is a doctor and a police officer and a fireman. Everyone who provides a service to you is doing so to earn a living, but does...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 18-12-2011, 01:33 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 350
Posted By inconditus
It's unfortunate that things did not work out...

It's unfortunate that things did not work out between you both. It hurts to lose someone that you love and especially when you so need the support that they have to offer. It must feel like you will...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 18-12-2011, 01:25 PM
Replies: 29
Views: 858
Posted By inconditus
I think it's perfectly natural for someone to...

I think it's perfectly natural for someone to crave a relationship and seek love, but you should also have other things in your life that provide happiness. Few people remain in a relationship their...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 18-12-2011, 01:04 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 387
Posted By inconditus
I agree with what Jill has said above; very...

I agree with what Jill has said above; very often, counseling is difficult and especially at the very beginning when you've first started as it opens up all of those thoughts and feelings that are...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 18-12-2011, 12:27 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 341
Posted By inconditus
You're right - one day at a time. Each time you...

You're right - one day at a time. Each time you go to bed, you have to remind yourself you've managed to go without self harm for one more day and with each day that passes, the easier it will be to...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 18-12-2011, 12:04 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 527
Posted By inconditus
Wow - four years without self harm is a fantastic...

Wow - four years without self harm is a fantastic achievement! Many of us at RYL can appreciate how difficult it is to stop and keep that up for such a long time. You've done amazingly well. I hope...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 18-12-2011, 11:01 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 402
Posted By inconditus
It's hard to recommend a management plan for your...

It's hard to recommend a management plan for your hallucinations without first understanding where they come from, and so I too would first suggest that you go and speak to your GP. Hallucinations...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 18-12-2011, 10:43 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 341
Posted By inconditus
It's fantastic that you've been able to go for...

It's fantastic that you've been able to go for two weeks without harming yourself. It sounds like you've faced some temptation during that time but you've managed to work through that and that's...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 17-12-2011, 01:23 AM
Replies: 1
Views: 275
Posted By inconditus
You shouldn't feel ashamed of what happened. You...

You shouldn't feel ashamed of what happened. You may be young but sex is a perfectly normal and healthy part of a relationship and, whilst it's unfortunate that other people have obviously seen those...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 17-12-2011, 12:55 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 467
Posted By inconditus
You say you've been trying to stop self harming...

You say you've been trying to stop self harming for a while but feel as though just when you get on top of it, something happens that causes you to slip back into old habits. I'm really sorry to hear...
Forum: Serious Discussion and Advice 15-12-2011, 09:45 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 473
Posted By inconditus
You should really try to speak to your CPN and...

You should really try to speak to your CPN and psychologist about this. You are bound to be feeling some mixed emotions about the article you've read and it would be great to have that space to...
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