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Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 17-03-2010, 03:14 PM
Replies: 33
Views: 1,532
Posted By Illigran
That is really a difficult situation. Maybe one...

That is really a difficult situation. Maybe one way would be to have a serious talk with her - maybe she can be made to listen to reason, so that the two of you may make peace with each other. After...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 17-03-2010, 01:22 AM
Replies: 22
Views: 21,167
Posted By Illigran
Icon Question How did your parents / family react when you told them you were abused / assaulted?

This is a question to victims of sexual abuse (especially, but not only, to people who were victimized while they were still underage teenagers). What was your experience when you told your parents...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 13-03-2010, 11:10 PM
Replies: 9
Views: 463
Posted By Illigran
troubleshooter is right: There can be no excuse!...

troubleshooter is right: There can be no excuse! In my opinion, there are things that are definitely unforgivable. I think what happened in your case might be forgiven but that of course entirely...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 13-03-2010, 12:14 AM
Replies: 10
Views: 700
Posted By Illigran
It is definitely abuse. There can be no doubt...

It is definitely abuse. There can be no doubt about that.
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 28-02-2010, 05:40 AM
Replies: 10
Views: 559
Posted By Illigran
I want to make a suggestion - but please do not...

I want to make a suggestion - but please do not lynch me if it seems to make no sense ;-) I am no psychologist after all. i have heard many times that an effective method to conquer certain types of...
Forum: General Chat 25-02-2010, 03:50 PM
Replies: 38
Views: 1,134
Posted By Illigran
haha, when I bought my first two rats (when I was...

haha, when I bought my first two rats (when I was 16), my mother was shocked when they saw them in their cage and asked me what kind of animals they were. I told her that they are "Norwegian...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 24-02-2010, 11:32 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 1,376
Posted By Illigran
Something else has happened (but nothing bad at...

Something else has happened (but nothing bad at all!), about which I will soon tell in a new thread because the entire situation has changed in several ways. I have also had another conversation with...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 24-02-2010, 09:19 PM
Replies: 154
Views: 12,006
Posted By Illigran
*Contains some GRAPHIC and sexually explicit...

*Contains some GRAPHIC and sexually explicit passages that could be triggering*
I have actually sent this letter to my abuser. We exchanged several letters so far, two of the letters he wrote to me I...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 24-02-2010, 03:16 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 477
Posted By Illigran
I agree. The fact that he suddenly contacted you...

I agree. The fact that he suddenly contacted you after all this time but did not suggest meeting with you shows that he probably really only wanted to say sorry. And regarding your question if he...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 23-02-2010, 07:15 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 823
Posted By Illigran
You must realize when you state that you have not...

You must realize when you state that you have not done enough, that this can only mean there was actually no possible way to do anything more! You may not "have done enough" in the sense that you...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 23-02-2010, 06:30 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 1,376
Posted By Illigran
Headrush and everyone else, I MUST tell you...

Headrush and everyone else, I MUST tell you something! :-) I do not know what your religion is. But you should NEVER believe that you will go to hell because of something for which somebody else is...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 22-02-2010, 11:35 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 1,376
Posted By Illigran
Well @headrush, as I stated above in the thread,...

Well @headrush, as I stated above in the thread, I am convinced that the vast majority of perpetrators (and especially those who have already committed multiple offences) will never feel any regret...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 20-02-2010, 08:25 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 1,376
Posted By Illigran
Well, I just had a thought: I certainly donīt...

Well, I just had a thought: I certainly donīt want to offend anyone, so I really hope that no-one of you thinks that I am a "traitor" / that I betrayed the cause of all victims of abuse.:confused: I...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 20-02-2010, 05:18 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 693
Posted By Illigran
I think you made the right decision. And you are...

I think you made the right decision. And you are right, no longer holding a grudge is for your own benefit, not for the perpetrator. From what you wrote I understand that the abuser in your case has...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 18-02-2010, 10:43 AM
Replies: 17
Views: 1,376
Posted By Illigran
Thank you -everyone- for your advice! Time to...

Thank you -everyone- for your advice! Time to tell you what has happened in the meantime and how I will proceed. First I must say that I will not abandon my plan to give the perpetrator a second...
Forum: Abuse and Bullying Support 13-02-2010, 11:32 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 1,376
Posted By Illigran
Call me insane - but I forgive and spare my tormentor.

I am 17, he is 18. We are both male and go to the same school. It happened on a Friday after school. He followed me to the toilet. He pushed me against a wall. He held a knife against my throat. He...
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